I know it's pointless to ask but this is very close to home subject for me please no jokes. Are you still in the situation if not how did you get out if you are still in it why not leave before they kill you when is too much is enough already?
2006-12-01 16:30:07 · 21 answers · asked by katlady927 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
good for you Angela that takes a lot of courage my oldest daughter was a victim of DV but we didn't know until she was killed by him I knew thay argued but not physical until 3 days before and I tried to get her to leave she said it was just a 1 time thing and he wouldn't hurt her he shot and killed her one time is all it takes I am glad you got away now please don't go back
2006-12-01 16:35:10 · update #1
Hey Liz it is a small small world you live where i grew up and went to middle school where i went to Jr high(bearcats) I grew up on Jenkins ave i tried your 360 but just did mine and not sure how to post i live by eastland mall welcome back home I lived in Cocoa Fla. for 3 years I hope all is good if you need a friend e-mail me or go to my 360 I think my angel daughter is looking out for you
2006-12-01 16:39:28 · update #2
thanks I am not now a victim but was years ago because I grew up with that from my dad I thought that was how men treated women thank God I learned different but my daughter did not thoough I told all my kids all their life it just takes one time and then you leave if you ahve kids and stay the cycle may go on. STOP THE CYCLE NOW!!!!
2006-12-01 16:42:24 · update #3
wow "people are scum" thank you for venting I need that kind of shi- it's hard and the more people against DV the better chance of saving a life my daughter is gone but I keep trying to help someone else before it is too late she would want that thank you for your support I hope you meet him also but get in line baby family is already at the front Love ya on the 8th 1 year anniversary i will post a Q in polls and surveys for all who wish to light a candle for her at her web site please do so you are a strong defender I am still working on her site though http://tamara-moore.memory-of.com/
2006-12-01 17:01:34 · update #4
the person with the thumbs now is probably an abuser
2006-12-02 11:51:07 · update #5
My ex girlfriend used to beat me up all the time. It's really embarassing 'cause I'm a guy (and I can handle myself) but I was brought up to believe that under no circumstances is it right to hit a woman.
I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. Men (me included) are assholes by nature. I like to think that I'm one of the better ones, but my point is, one hit, one slap, one anything is one too many. I've had my fair share of girlfriends, and I (as an alcoholic) used to get in to rows and arguments with all of them but not ONCE did I ever raise my hand to any of them, even when severely provoked.
My current gal (who also happens to be my wife) is the only woman I've never so much raised my voice to. It takes a lot of courage to leave someone, a hell of a lot more than most of us are willing to admit. The trouble is, when it happens once, it WILL (no ifs or buts) happen again. And again. And again.
God, what happened to your daughter is unforgivable. You MUST believe this, it was not her fault. It was that piece of sh*t boyrfriend's or husband's or whatever the hell he was, it was HIS fault and his fault alone. Your daughter was terrified. Terrified of him, terrified of being alone, terrified of never finding anyone else. I hear this sh*t every day and every day it makes me angrier.
The moment that the world as a whole realises that domestic violence IS (and I don't care if this seems inflammatory) tantamount to rape is the moment that I am no longer needed. Sorry. No, I'm not sorry, DV is the same thing as rape, it's one person completely stripping another of their dignity and their security and their faith in mankind. I've seen it happen so MANY f*cking times that I, personally, have grown numb to it. It's the only way I can do what I do.
(If I explained what I meant by that, I would - and this is no joke - be traced, arrested, and thrown in jail for the rest of my life)
I am terribly sorry for what happened to you daughter. I hope the motherf*cker that hurt her dies an unbelievably excrutiaingly painful death. In fact, I hope I meet the bastard some day, and I hope he spend eternity in whatever hell he believes in.
I apologise for using your question and your pain as an outlet with which to vent my own personal anger, but I get so very few chances to do it in public.
May your daughter rest in peace.
2006-12-01 16:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by people are scum 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some folks say to leave the relationship, when you're in a no-control situation, you can't leave! You are terrorized- restraining orders do NOT work. I'm answering because this needs to be said. A couple weeks ago I answered a question here when someone joked about stalking. Stalking is not a joke and some feel it is false and doesn't happen- it does! I was in a 6 year hell with a man who I thought I loved and trusted, until he made me a prisoner. The only reason I am alive is because someone finally made an anonymous call- sirens from the police and me waking up in a hospital. When people tell me to "chill" about things like this, I cannot- they haven't a clue what pain and suffering is. One of my answers and it was deleted from yahoo, my only violation dealt bluntly with my ordeal because someone thought I was lying! I feel bad for those. I've been shot, knifed, sexually abused in the worst way that is glorified in pornography... I'm glad I am here and a part of this community. I have been through therapy- I thank God and Mother Goddess for that strength to hang on one more day, each day is a count on my calendar, a reminder of my newfound freedom. Thank you for this question, now I'm gonna go cry in the bathroom.
2006-12-02 00:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.I have been beaten up,battered throughout pregnancies.I was punched in the head and thrown downstairs at 6 months pregnant.I had panic attacks,lost my confidence.I could write a book about my experiences.
One day my mum asked me what size of coffin I wanted.That was when something 'clicked' in my brain.Time to leave.I had been threatened with acid.He told me he would find me and throw acid over me so no man would ever look at me again.I left my country with 2 young kids.I never even had a coat.Freedom is wonderful.I lost my home,my family and all my friends.Then people on here tell me to get a life for spending so much time on here.Never judge a book by its cover.I have nobody.I have my kids,and my lovely 'new' man.That is it.Yet I have never been so happy,and treated with 100% respect.There was a happy ever after for me.
2006-12-02 15:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every female 12 and older should read this question thoroughly! Most women are killed by the husband or the boyfriend. A lot of women suffer in silence until it is too late. A pastor, policeman, or a teen-aged boy can be an abuser. Don't wait to get hit, leave the relationship if verbal abuse starts. Value your life and don't accept abuse!
2006-12-02 00:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100 percent. My mother was in an abusive relationship for almost 10 years. He beat her, cursed her, belittled her, molested her daughter (not me, half sister) and even choked her so badly once she couldn't talk. The only reason the relationship ended was because he got tired of her and divorced her. She didn't even leave when he was accused of molesting her child. What losers - both of them. But, I must say that he got his reward when he had a major stroke that left him helpless! That, my dear, is justice!
2006-12-02 00:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a victim of domestic vialence. I got out by taking my self and my daughter and moving to ohio. I packed my stuff when my ex was sleeping and when he was at work. I call my mom one night and had her pick me and my daughter up and dropping us off at the grayhound bus stop. It took me 2 days to get here from Florida but I'm glad I did it.
2006-12-02 00:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a victim of domestic violence then you need to seek help asap. Don't stay. There are many options and choices for you. I dont know your situation but I do know that what i am saying is easier said than done, but it must be done, easy or not.Alot of states have special programs and shelters for victims of domestic violence. Search the internet or yellow pages, call ask questions and don't be affraid or ashamed to explain your situation, they are only there to help you not judge you. And if you ever want to talk please feel free to email me. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-02 00:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Thumper 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, for 4 yrs...had my a** beat regularly! What a jerk....finally couldn't take it...made sure I had witnesses and got a protection from abuse order through county courts....when he violated that I called my witnesses and showed my pictures (ALWAYS take pictures!!!!!!) and the jerk was riding the "Hershey Highway" for 5-7 yrs in state prison!!!!! Be Careful...but GET OUT NOW!!!
2006-12-02 00:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got fed up one day and left. It was hard, and I didn't want to get out of bed for a few months, however, I'm a MUCH stronger woman for it now.
2006-12-02 00:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes when i was little my mom put me in a headlock and did this body slam thing on me...in fron t of my friend too.
everyone at school found out i got "taken" to school by my own mother.
just imagine if i lived in the ghetto.....
2006-12-02 00:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋