i dont really wnat to go into details except that yes it has to do with my..fiance actually.. lying and cheating....(i got my revenge)....we dont want to leave eachother, just start over and have a better begining......any suggestions (besides breaking up) or advice on how to forgive and forget?
2006-12-01 16:27:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you really don't want to leave him and you truly have forgiven him then it hasn't happened. Don't let yourdlef think about it. It is not an issue any more. Put it in the past and leave it there.
2006-12-01 16:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by mss_lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am kinda in the same boat except I didn't go after revenge. He cheated on me and lied to me about for a year and I found out from a friend of his it was crushing but I knew I was going to move on he is in the Air Force and was in basic when I found out I went down there for his basic graduation and we talked about it and he told me he was willing to do anything to make this work.... About two weeks after that he called me crying like a child and told me how he couldn't do this anymore he had hurt me to bad and I knew at that moment that every childish argument we had wasn't worth losing him. Maybe you guys should take a break so you can realize how much you need each other. Maybe you can try some couples therapy. I wish you all the best ... good luck...
2006-12-01 16:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never truly 100% forgive, much less forget, but give it a try and try not to make the past a topic on an future arguements, beacuse the past always, somehow, seems to resurface.
2006-12-01 16:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to forgive but you will never forget.In your case you said you got revenge so remember that the two of you are even.Don't hang nothing over his head and hope he don't find out what you did or try to hang something over your head also.This is going to be hard for both of you.
2006-12-01 17:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier to forgive than forget it takes a lot of work but time is a great healer.
2006-12-01 16:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt really advice on how to forgive and forget. u have to do it on your own. just put as much effort in to it as u can and try your best to move away from the past. look towards the future.
2006-12-01 16:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so hard to forgive and forget u might not want to forget maybe forgive but if u gorget then it may happen again you guys can go talk to someone about it i dont know but i wish u luck dont let him off easy make him work for ur trust back
2006-12-01 16:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness takes a big heart... you can forgive... but can you ever forget....that is the hard part...and that will always haunt you.....try working on forgetting first... then the forgiveness will come...
2006-12-01 16:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Traynor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, really love him, forgive him.....but never forget....I hate to say it but once a cheater always a cheater!
2006-12-01 16:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless there is a serious paradigm change for both of you about your relationship, expect it to be defined by the circumstances you just stated.
2006-12-01 16:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by entropy1001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋