I am a very sexually open woman. I love my boyfriend and I love pleasing him. I love giving head, watching pornos with him, making good use of hot wax and champagne.I love restraints and etc. Anyway some of my friends say i am nasty. I just like what I do. What do you think?
2006-12-01 16:26:21 · 25 answers · asked by peaches m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You freaking sound like the bomb, not a freak.
2006-12-01 22:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by scooterdude 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"We accept her, we accept her, one of us, one of us..."
(A line from the Tod Browning movie "Freaks," if you didn't recognize the reference.)
There's a broad spectrum of sexual interests, both in terms of sex drive (how often/how intensely you want sex) and in sexual openness (what kinds of things you consider sexually fulfilling and satisfying). Some people think you're a freak if you like sex more than twice a month. Some people think you're a freak if you like certain body parts touched, or enjoy using sex toys, or have sex anywhere other than the bedroom. (Though if you have kids, it's harder to get spontaneously naked on the livingroom floor... in the words of Bart Simpson, "Only sick people want to watch MY parents kiss.")
Other than that, the secret to sexual satisfaction is to find somebody whose place in the sexual spectrum is close enough to yours that you are able to fulfill each other, and yourselves, by doing things you share.
The problem isn't that you're nasty, it's that your friends are all speaking from a different part of the sexual spectrum. It may not be that they're repressed -- it's possible that their level of desire and intensity allows them to be satisfied with what would seem, to you or me, to be a grim and joyless existence, a life of monotony and constant frustration.
And I'm positive -- because I'm friends with a few -- that there are people who consider the things that you and I enjoy to be mainstream and middle-of-the-road.
Don't worry about it. Try out things that interest you. Some you'll like -- some you won't. (Hot wax didn't do much for me, for example, but a mouthful of crushed ice, now... :-) The point is not to live your life up, or down, to somebody else's expectations. The point is to find someone whose spot in the sexual continuum is close enough to yours that you are happy together, satisfied and fulfilled.
2006-12-02 08:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't make love to your friends. Enjoy the open minded relationship and feel sorry for those that don't open up and make you feel bad. If you were shagging the Pope or your Mother, then they have a point, but he is your boy friend and you are an adult. Enjoy your fun
2006-12-02 11:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by pampering_dame_sophie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinky...
Your friends are just jealous because they are not as comfortable with their own sexuality. It's funny how people deem women as "nasty" for having interest in sex, yet guys get the "high-five".
Keep up the fun! That's all I have to say.
2006-12-01 16:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by zombiefrog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Different strokes for different folks. If you and your boyfriend enjoy it, and you are not doing anything that will cause physical harm to either of you, don't worry about what your friends think. In order for them not to form an opinion on your sex life, don't tell them what happens between you and your boyfriend. It is none of their business.
2006-12-01 16:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-02 04:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a freak. I think it's great that you are comfortable with your sexuality--screw what you friends think! It's non of their business anyway. Enjoy yourself!
2006-12-01 17:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by johncrrll 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should do what feels right to you and your boy-friend
do what pleases you both...
what happens in the bedroom of 2 consenting adults is their business..it is not for public consumption
2006-12-01 16:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm thinking you're just sex-positive. As long as you're safe about your sex life and it doesn't cause things like losing your job because you can't get enough sex, then don't worry. As far as the light BDSM goes, millions practice it. Again, as long as you're safe about it don't worry about what others say.
2006-12-01 16:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you even listen to your friends rather than your own heart? If your friends can't accept you as you are, you have basically two choices:
1-Conceal from them what they are unable to accept.
2-Move on to friends who CAN accept you for who you are.
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2006-12-01 16:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by Seeker 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did they have to know that? Maybe they do the same things. They just don't tell everyone. That could be what they find nasty about you. Hmmmm...........
2006-12-01 16:30:30 · answer #11 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋