so hard for my bf to believe that i really just dont want to have sex? the first thing that comes to his mind is whether or not im cheating...which i am not...
i only have sex for his benefit...i could go without it and not be hurt at all but he "needs" to have sexual contact so the fact that i never really want to have sex creates static between us...
giving/receiving oral or foreplay does not help...
what is wrong with me???
2006-12-01 16:21:37 · 18 answers · asked by person 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i never said that i do not "enjoy" sex...i just have no initial "desire" to do so...
of course if we are already in the "act" sooner or later it may or may not feel good...
im just saying it wouldnt bother me one way or the other if i didnt have sex on a regular basis...
its like ice cream for me...sure its delicious but that doesnt mean i have to have it all the time...i dont "fiend" or have a "need" for it...
2006-12-01 16:43:12 · update #1
i am 22 years old
2006-12-01 16:46:00 · update #2
Sounds like nothing is wrong with you. Unfortunately though, most people need that sexual contact to give them that bind that helps form a closer relationship. I think that you are rare in that most people enjoy sex. Maybe try talking to a sex therapist or such. They might be able to help you and your BF understand each others situation better.
2006-12-01 16:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by William J 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to answer this question without more information about your general health. Assuming you are a generally healthy person, if you are fairly young it could be that you know you have your whole life ahead of you for that and are focusing on other more important things right now. More and more women are having babies later in life when they are more established and if you have a woman like that in your life you could have been influenced by her. Feelings of pressure from a loved one can also cause you to feel resentment towards an activity and not want to do it at all. You may want to get tested for hormone levels, but if you are not having any menstrual problems, I wouldn't think you are having hormone problems. I have heard of people that just do not want to have sex and you could possibly be one of those people, especially if you are an older woman past menopause. I wouldn't worry about ti too much, especially if you are very young, like your early to mid teens. I never enjoyed sex until I was 17, I just did it cause my boyfriends "needed" it lol. If you are seriously concerned about it, you should consult a therapist and speak with them of your concerns. It could be that would set your mind at ease very quickly. Good Luck
2006-12-01 16:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by experiencedmotherof4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I see anything wrong in that...I'd have more respect for someone like you than someone who thought about sex non stop. The world is so run over by sex that it just get sick.
Depending on your age..you could just be going through a stage..you may or may not hit a sexual spurt. I wouldn't worry about it unless it's affecting your relationship..then if you choose you could get help through your doctor.
2006-12-01 16:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sort of understand, in a Sasquatch sort of way ...
Personally, I seek an intellectual relationship first with someone I can talk with on similar levels. (We Sasquatch are lousey spellers but incredibly intelligent)! ;-) We like smart folk!
Some folk think 'everything' is built around sex ... Not True! There is much more out there than sex!
Seriously though!
I presume you are rather young. Maybe this guy is just not for you. Maybe you need something different! I don't know you so this is difficult to answer!
IMHO - One day, you will meet the perfect person for you! Hang tight!
The Ol' Sasquatch Ü
2006-12-01 16:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing's wrong with you,
Don't judge yourself by what other people think is normal or right, but in a relationship you have to consider 'his' needs and feelings too. If the experience isn't actually bad for you then you might do it to please him because he's your partner and partners should care about each other. Are there things he doesn't like, but you do? talk to him about it and make a trade?
Whatever; Just remember that your feelings are OK and so are his. Then you can find out if the relationship is going to work out.
2006-12-01 16:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how old are you? I was into my twenties before I started enjoying sex. I did it mainly for my boyfriends before that.
Are you on the pill? The pill can sometimes lower your sex drive.
Talk to your gyno about it if it's not age or if you arent on the pill.
Good luck! Hope you have some enjoyable sex soon!
2006-12-01 16:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by c m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry; I'm the same way!!
I just don't see what the big deal is about sex. :S I mean sure, making out and all is fine but I just don't find a need to have anything more.
Sorry I don't really have an answer for you!
2006-12-01 16:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by dayoldporridge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get pretty riled up when my wife tells me she's not interested or dosent need it. i think the whole deal is that women dont want a man hovering over them, slobbering saliva all over them, and eventually plowing into them. then they have to lay there for the duration of the man's stamina and act like they are enjoying what is being done to them. to top it off they have to tolerate animal like noises that come from the man while hes in the throes of blowing his nuts all over her. that, my dear lady is the reason why you dont enjoy sex.
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2016-12-13 18:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably u have yet to grow. Sexual drive of women increases with age and experience particularly if they belong to conservative families.
2006-12-01 16:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋