How can I get my husband to be more dominate in bed.?

Question

I don't know how to communicate this need. Please help

Answer 1

I know it's hard to talk about some things but your husband is supposed to be your best friend, you should work on communicating with him. You might be surprised at how far the conversation can go.

Answer 2

When's the last time you two took a bubble bath together? Turn the lights off, light some candles and talk. Ask him if there is anything he would like for you to do. After that he is suppose to ask you if there is anything he can do for you, but guys aren't the brightest crayons in the box, so you may have to tell him. "honey, do you know what I would like?" And he will say "what?" and just tell him, "I'd like you to be the cave man and me the cave woman and you just take me by the head of the hair and throw me down and make passionate love to me" Of course, I would be behind him whispering this in his ear so he couldn't see me. (I'm shy) It couldn't hurt. You would be surprised at the number of people that don't have the guts to do what they really want. I bet he wants it as much as you, but is afraid you'll think he's a freak. Or maybe he doesn't know he wants it, until you suggest it to him. Go for it! It can't hurt and will only get better, I promise!

Answer 3

It's very hard to get someone to be something they're not. If your husband isn't necessarily a dominant individual, it's going to be hard for him to dominate you in bed. You >could< offer some literature, "The Loving Dom", or something similar, give him subtle suggestions that you'd like to try being dominated in the bedroom. Let him know how much of a turn-on it is, that it's something you'd like to try, see if he's interested in trying it on for size.

Answer 4

Pick a time and talk to him about improving your intimacy with him. Let him know how you feel, and how much of a turn on it would be to you for him to be more dominant in bed. If he realizes what he will get or what he is missing then he will give you what you want. It seems selfish, but men need to realize whats in it for them. Maybe proposition him into being dominant, then blow him away with your sexual appetite.

Answer 5

I don't know what his personality is like but for starters just tell him you want a little more variety in bed. You want to experiment and that it will be beneficial for him in the log run. Tell him if he does what you want you will give him head or suck one of his nuts. Keep in mind if you want this prepare to do some thing he asks. Be free enjoy yourself. And also if he is not into oral, try this. When you use the bathroom to urinate don't empty yourself completely. Pause and hold this exercise your vaginal muscles. A doctor told me about this. It helps a woman make her walls tight to grip her partners member tremendously. All men love a tight area and once you learn how to control it on and off you can use this tool to get what you want. If he really likes use it as a bargaining chip. It works trust me.

Answer 6

Communication is the name of the game talk to him.

Answer 7

Try starting something at a different time of day. I'm dead tired at the end of the day but in the morning no matter how early I'm all over my sleepy headed wife. Just a thought.

Answer 8

I got this great book called
The Fine Art of Erotic Talk
By Bonnie Gabriel
the book is about how to entice, excite and enchant your lover with words, and ideas how to go about the stuff!
It helped me, and gave great awesome ideas, to keep it interesting!

Answer 9

I'll let you in on a man secret. We like women to be direct and tell us what they want. You might not realize it, but your body language might be saying something other that what you think and your husband may be doing what he thinks you want him to do.

Answer 10

While you are "seducing" him, whisper in his ear how much it would turn you on if he took control. You have to give specifics. Make sure you do it while his "interest" is peaked and you have his full attention.