Am I stupid?

Question

I have a kid with him even I know he is married. He never leaves his wife for me and for our kid. We stopped. After that, he has 2 kids with his wife. We got back together and now I found out he has another kid with his wife. He tried to cover this from me. I told him that I didn't want anything from him, as long as I can still see him, but he need to promise me not lie to me anymore. I am really disappointed when I found out anyother baby is on the way again. I feel like so stupid, but at the same time, I am so mad at myself. I still want to see him.

He never told me that he was married, not until I fell in love with him so deep. I was so selfish to have kid with him. His wife knew about me and our kid. However, she doesn't know we get back together. I am really mad at myself.

Answer 1

Yes, you are stupid. He's not going to leave his wife. If you still want to see him, take a picture. It'll last longer than the relationship.

Answer 2

OH YES !! You certainly are. If you are looking for sympathy don't come to me !! The only ones l feel sorry for are his wife and kids. As far as l am concerned you two should crawl back under your rock and stay there. How dare you ask him to make you any promises. The only person that deserves his promises is his wife, YOU on the other hand only deserve to be used like the scummy little sl*t that you are !! I just hope his wife finds out and makes a great life for herself and her children. You two deserve each other as scum needs more scum to survive. You will both be judged one day and l wish you all the misery in the world !!!!! The only one in your relationship l feel sorry for is your poor innocent child. Think about him/ her for a change !!!!!!!..... I just read your adds and if what you say is true the way l see it you all deserve each other !! You do not seem to have a brain between you !!!!!!! Nothing changes the way l feel about anything else though !!!!!!

Answer 3

The man is married and they continue to have children together. There is no way this man is going to leave his wife now or in the future. You both have made a serious mistake getting together plus having a child together. Now your life is a mess and when you file for child support, another life with more children will be a mess as well. I guess you both are happy by destroying your lives and innocent children and their Mothers. What a tangled web we weave comes to mind. You both need to sit down. One you need to stay out of his life and leave him alone. Arrange for visitation of his child away from the home. Grow up and leave married men alone.

Answer 4

What i feel is that you just made a mistake . You are not stupid but made a big mistake. But the main point is that he was at fault. Why he made an affair when he him self is already married. It ok when he divorced but it seems that he still love his wife more than he love you. What is guess is you take care of the child and big him up as a good person. Forget about your lover the most important is your child now. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Yes u are a fool.
Not only you will hurt yourself you will eventually hurt your innocent child and his wife's and children too. Think about it is he worth all the pain and trouble for you and your kid?.

When your kid grows up what are you going to tell him/her, can the kid look at you and see you as a person and respect you or him?.

Get out while you can. Move to another place and start a new.

Answer 6

For you to ask this question, obviously in your mind you know that the decisions you are making are not wise. You know he's a liar so why would you trust any promise that he made to you...he lies to his wife everyday and he still choose to be with her so what makes you special? At this point you need to be more concerned about the child you have with him...will he have to keep that child a secret, if so what kind of relationship will they be able to have. Children need their fathers not to mention your child has half siblings that they have a right to know and have a relationship with...You made this situation and you brought a child into it, you are stupid if you continue to degrade yourself by continuing to see him/have sex with him and if you don't do what's in your childs best interest.

Answer 7

I am the wife of a cheating husband the answer to your question is yes! I know it is not totally your fault that this man set eyes on you but it is if you continue to stay in the way if they are trying to fix things up if you have a little pride and respect for your child let him be with his family because after all if he wasn't in love with her he would've left her for you. Get your child support and move on!!

Answer 8

You need to focus on your child rather than on a man. You need to be a mother and stop trying to break up that marriage. If he keeps having children with his wife it's because he loves her and loves being a father to her children. It looks like you were a booty call and he was not serious about you at all.

Answer 9

It all depends of what you want out of that person. Relationships exist on mutal sharing and understanding. If you feel that your mutual understanding and sharing is fading. Then, my suggestion is to sit alone and think about what to next. Perhaps you may have one more chance to build it again. Talk to him. understand him and make him understand your position and feeling about him. At the same time remember that everyone has the right to be free and independent. Get up and plan. Move ahead with your plan. Best of luck

Answer 10

You can't expect a cheating man not to lie, what makes you think that he won't do to you what he is currently doing to his wife? You have done a bad thing by getting involved with a married man, it's wrong and you are paying the price.