how can you accept the fact that you are likened to a rag that can be discarded after having been used?
2006-12-01 15:54:43 · 11 answers · asked by Jessie 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
take it with a grain of salt.. a discarded rag can still make some floors shine
2006-12-02 17:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by katrina_ponti 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not speak to the person that said this to you - ever again. Never. This is just like physical abuse except the injury is lifelong, more threatening, life altering and you bleed from the inside. Its horrible.
You don't accept it - at all. You walk away. At any cost, walk away and never look back. Please. I've been there. You're not a rag or any unkind word that could be used.
If you find you're in an uncomfortable position - find a therapist. They will help make you stronger so that you can walk away, never believe what they said and never attract anyone like this again.
I wrote a book about this same abuse. I'm not promoting it but if you ever want to read it, I'd be happy to e-mail it to you so you don't have to buy it. Just contact me through this forum.
This type of abuse must be stopped in its tracks. Its horrible.
2006-12-02 00:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jessie, Look inside and ask yourself what it is that hurts. Where did that hurt first come into your life? Are you hurt because somebody else did or said something to you? Or are you hurt because you have reached a hurtful conclusion about yourself? You can't control others...so if someone says something about you, that's their issue. You can control yourself. If you wish to consider yourself in some way, that is your option. But you also have the option of considering yourself as being a worthy child of god, full of love and light and beauty and strength. That's your opinion of you and you're entitled to hold it. Do so. And if someone else calls you a "discarded rag", that merely shows their inability to see your inner beauty. I think you're beautiful. So do you.
2006-12-02 00:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's ok to have been hurt. At times I thought pianos are falling out of the sky and someone who hasn't experienced that just doesn't know. Think gestalt- the wholeness of the picture. Sometimes it helps to remember it could always be worse and that breaking new ground should always be a goal.
2006-12-02 00:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by rusty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
These kind of expression are not the 'absolute values'.
The term of 'having been used' reflect directly to your personality.
Without knowing you, I can say that your 'materialistic mentality' is the main problem for you.
Why you should think that 'You are an OBJECT" You are THING" that someone can 'USE' you.
Are you a "vacuum cleaner" [ as an object]?
Are you a "vehicle"?
Do you believe when you do out with a guy, he must pay for all expenses? Why?
Are you like many girls who believe guys must 'give Something to them for sexual intercourse'? [gift, restaurant, money...].
SO, these are sample of 'cause' false impression that "Having Ben Used"...
YOU MUST HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF; work on your self esteem and try to 'judge' yourself with reasonableness.
Forget & Forgive.
2006-12-02 00:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dreamed once to reach a star
but all i got were tons of scars...
Then, when I wasn't looking, love found me.
Jessie, you never should accept such a thing from anyone under any circumstance. Keep dreaming and love will find you.
2006-12-02 15:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bender 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a rag! Do something for yourself that's enjoyable and selfish! Don't be ashamed of what happened, just move on!
2006-12-01 23:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I remind myself that everyone goes though horrible pain sometimes and that things will get better. It's OK to give yourself time to grieve.
2006-12-02 00:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess the only logical answer is "Put it down to expeirience" one is not a failure because they have been hurt, it's the other person who has the problem.
2006-12-02 13:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by poetrygirl on line 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
guess not get in that situation again . but tuffin up and go on time helps hang in there
2006-12-02 00:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋