At 38, I've dated numerous women in thier thirties over the last few years. In nearly all of the relationships, brief and or long term, I was surprised to find out how many women enjoyed being spanked during sessions of intense sex. Some requesting it, some experiencing for the first time.
I asked several of them what the draw was to being spanked, and two answers stood out from the rest; they said they enjoyed, if not relished, the way I handled them in bed. Strongly, and or forceibly in a way that they weren't used to. This makes sense to me, but now has me wondering.
Do all women long to be spanked at times during sex??? Do most not get to experience it until a sexual maturity in thier thirties, or do they just not express, or explore with the thought of it in thier 20's???
Girls, care to shed some light for us on this???
2006-12-01 15:34:02 · 18 answers · asked by johngolfs2002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont really think it has to do with age i think that its who you are with that makes you do the things you do. Im 22 and i enjoy being dominated and spanked and bittin. I dont mean like bruises or nothing but i like a man to completely take over me and have his way with me. Know i have been with him for 3 1/2 and i probably would not have been this way if i had not been with him this long, but if we were to split i think that i would request that the next man do the same. maybe it seems like woman in there 30s just now know what they want but thats because they never realized it before, youd be surprised what u really like!
2006-12-01 15:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by sexycat_1984 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is supposed to increase the enphorpin well probalby not able to spell it, but it increased the brain senses for sexual pressures!
20's.30's, and even the 40's. If women feeled, safe and protected, and not feeled abused or neglected, a woman, who is married, and believed that their husband has all rights and authority over them, well it is better for therapy then just file for a divorce. It is sexualy pleasure and protection pleasure of being accountable of your own actions and behavior of not being respectful or naughty!
Getting spanked for women increased the sexual as if the same for a man taking E.D. meication for his own sexual function! The pain intense, goes to the brain, and all you can do, accept the spanking, enjoy the sensation, the fantansy, and knowing that you are being naughty and getting the sexual pleasure is breath taking. Alot of women daydream of being spanked, but very ambarrassed by asking for it,or some people think there is something wrong with you and have nothing to do with you.
For some women, it is a need to get spanked, just to increase the sexual stigma instead of being on so much medication for pms, and depression.
So you think about it, when the gift of offer of a woman getting spanked, she is offering alot more than you know, emotional, trust, acceptance, accoutablity, pleasure, and the promise of not holding sex from you. Don't abuse the situation, but be careful, when this gift is offered to you, to take complete control over her!
2006-12-01 15:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not like to be spanked. I first tried it when I was 20. I was experimenting in my sexuality at the time. I was with a man I trusted explicitly. He was dominant but still thoughtful of my feelings. Forceful sex is completely abhorrent to me. I know that some enjoy these type of sexual scenarios very much but I am not one of those women. (If it is good for you and your partner KUDOS for you!)
I think some women are very repressed with their sexuality and I think it has to do with upbringing. Perhaps they were taught that sex was dirty and immoral. Perhaps they were shown a poor example with their parents. Still I think it has to do with the fact that some believe that real everyday people don't do THOSE sorts of things. They are incorrect with that assumption.
When a woman really becomes a woman she makes decisions for herself and doesn't rely in totality off the information of others. She looks at all the facts and personal experience she can gather to make an informed decision of her own. (This could be on any topic) True, the decision she comes to may be the same as popular opinion would have all of us believe is true. Sometimes however, she will chose the path less OPENLY traveled for self-fulfillment.
2006-12-01 15:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy being spanked in bed. I also like to have my hair pulled. I'm 27, and have been with my husband for 13 years. I think it's just experimenting and seeing what each of you like in bed, no matter what the age.
2006-12-01 15:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by jessicalynn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same as some of the other women,I enjoy being spanked from time to time,but not all the time.Just depends on my mood at the time.And i didn't enjoy sex until my late twenties.But not all women like it.
2006-12-01 15:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by charliejodie 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy being spanked in bed but it wasn't until my late 20's that i really started to enjoy sex of any kind. i think its because women enjoy sex more at that age that they are able to open up to new experiences
2006-12-01 15:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women reach there sexual peak in their 30's, while men reach sexual fulfillment in their 20's. There is nothing wrong with sexual experimentation. Every person has their own likes and dislikes during foreplay, and intercourse. Perhaps, women in their 30's are more open to express what they want in the bedroom, bathroom, and during outdoor activities...i do.
2006-12-01 15:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nut 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have at times liked to be spanked, but I have often wondered what it would be like to be completely dominated. Almost like being raped. I know that I am going to get major thumbs downs for that comment, but I guess it is the idea of a man being in complete control that is the turn on. OF COURSE, i have never done that though.
2006-12-01 15:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's a personal choice. I myself do not like it. My husband would like to be spanked. However, after all these years I won't do it. I may just beat the cr.....p out of him once I let loose.
So I guess sometimes it's not a good thing.
2006-12-01 15:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by just_ole_nanny 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As an abused wife I don't think I would enjoy being spanked during sex.
2006-12-01 15:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by marie_roberts2001 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋