yall. around here where i stay. its crazy. mi cuzzo 9 n pregnant (n yes. im going to have a talk with her) and a family friend is 11, she is too. what should i do....or say, they look up to me..and do anything i say..but i feel like i've done something wrong by them, though im only 15. i never told them or even talked about it around them, so i kinda wonder where they even got it from..the baby daddies?...i have no clu
2006-12-01 15:18:13 · 14 answers · asked by *Angel* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
In the last post I read of yours, you were heading to the cheap store for a pregnancy test, was it for you or one of your cousins? (presuming that mi cuzzo means your cousin)
I suggest the first thing you do is buy enough tests for everyone to get tested and confirm all pregnancy's, then gather the ones who are pregnant and take them to the doctor, not to mention their parents will need to know, being so young can be a great cause of concern when pregnant and they will need to seek medical advice right away.
2006-12-01 15:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know who the fathers are or if any adult knows who the fathers are, it is the LAW that it be reported to the police immediately. Anyone who doesn't give up the father to the police is committing a CRIMINAL ACT. The parents could also be charged with neglect if they contributed in any way to such a horrible thing. 9 and 11 year old children ARE NOT CAPABLE OF LEGALLY OR MORALLY CONSENTING TO SEX, EVEN IF THEY INITIATED IT AND WERE WILLING. WHATEVER THE SITUATION, THESE CHILDREN HAVE BEEN RAPED. Sitting them down and talking to them is not a realistic or even a sane concept, although they will need counseling to recover from this horrible situation.
Be a mature young man and tell your school counselor or and police officer about this situation. Obviously, none of the adults in these girls' lives are concerned. These young girls...correction, CHILDREN...have been sexually abused and are in desperate need of RESCUE.
Please do the right thing.
God bless and keep you.
2006-12-01 15:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG OMG poor them well i suggest tht they have the babies because well i dot believe in a bprtion then againim Not 9 or 11 n pregnant bUt yet it is their fault thtthey r so yeh they dunt have to punish the babies biut then again i dont KnOW ALL the stry if it was willing or Not so honestly i thoink u should tlkt o their parents and see whts going to happen n u didnt do ne thing wrong in n e way just really sit down with them n their parents do the rght thing helpthem since they r already stuk in a hole u could also tell them they could put the babies uo for adoption PLEASE try and convince them to have the babies if u need someone to tlk to just email me latin_babe_sexy_69@hotmail.com im 17 and i have a 1 yr old baby
2006-12-01 15:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by la colombiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 and 11? Um...wow. It's not your fault they chose to have sex unless you are or said something. Do you know who the fathers are? How old are they? That seems insane. If I were you I would hunt down the fathers and put ALL of them in a room and talk to them. It's too late now so the best thing you can do is talk to her and be there for her. Her body isn't mature enough to handle a baby and neither is she or her friend. So discussing options with them would be a good start and then taking them to planned parenthood or another clinic and get them on birth control asap!
2006-12-01 15:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~A~*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out whether these girls got pregnant through sexual molestation by an adult! If they look up to you, they may confide this information. Then if they were molested, the sicko who did it must be convicted and punished.
It's not your job to have told them anything about sex, you have done nothing wrong. Just reassure them that they are not bad people; young children tend to think that when scary things happen to them, it is a punishment from God for something they've done wrong.
Will the pregnancies be terminated or completed? Will they be giving the babies up for adoption, or will the grandmothers raise the new children as their own? All of these will influence the girls' needs.
Sit down with each one in private, and give them time to vent their feelings and tell you what they need from you. If they don't know eachother, it may be helpful to ask their mothers to arrange for the girls to meet and become friends, so they can provide emotional support to one another.
I hope these girls' families are able to triumph through this emotionally difficult time.
2006-12-01 15:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good Grief, i DO hope this is a joke because my girls are 8 and 11!!!
9 and 11 yr olds should be playing with bratz dolls and such not having sex!
Also , my almost 12 yr old does not even want to LOOK at a boy so how did they have enough time alone to have sex?? Where was the supervision ??
2006-12-01 15:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lily18 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really doest matter what you say because what is done is done but I'm just wondering where on earth are your 9 year old cousins parents. And what is a 9 year old doing even having sex. Don't butt in it's not your place her parents weren't there for her obviously but they need to get there acts together and deal with this not you. And it doesn't matter if you never talked about sex around them they were bound to find out about it but they shouldn't have started practicing it so soon in their youth.
2006-12-01 15:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Louisa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If talking to their parents is an option I would recomend that. Otherwise, talk to them about the wisdom of placing those babies for adoption. It would be the best for the girls and their babies. Adoption is a loving responsible, unselfish way to let the girls finish growing up before they need to deal with parenthood, it give adoptive couples the chance to love and raise a precious little baby, and it gives the baby the benefit of a stable home with loving parents that can provide for it. The girls can even pick the adoptive couple if they want. There is a website that they can visit to look at adoptive parent profiles.
2006-12-01 15:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO 9 year old girl should be having sex. I don't care who you are.
As for the 11 year old boy who got her pregnant it sounds like he needs to be snipped ASAP.
2006-12-01 19:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to you to teach these children the facts of life values and morals are SUPPOSED to be taught in the home by the parents. You need to stay OUT of it all together, it's not YOUR job.
2006-12-01 17:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋