A friend of mine is engaged and she told me that her fiancee' has this fantsy about having a threesome with her. She asked me if I would do it. I guess I would. What do you think?
2006-12-01 15:06:00 · 24 answers · asked by peaches m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thats a hard call to make. ive never had experience with 3some or group sex. me and someone i was close to talked about it and we made a desicion together that is was not a good idea because when love is involved (like someone engaged to be married)emotions could get involved. all in all it could be a fun thing i think , but every couple ive talked to has told me you have to lay down established rules before the event takes place. it would have been better if you two were together with her fiance and she would have hit on you. asking you makes the wait and think time of the situation akward for you. hope i could give you a married male 26 y old open minded insight
2006-12-01 15:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I'd probably be the one who suggested it. But yes, I would have a threesome and I would only do so IF I was in a serious relationship were I knew and trusted my partner completely.
No one should ever do a threesome to please someone else, they should only have one if it is their fantasy as well. Otherwise, y'all are just going to end up with a lot of hurt feelings and resentment. If your friend asked you, it means she really trusts you. Just make sure it's something you and your friend want to do.
Other than that, my only advice is to just have fun!
2006-12-01 15:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we would and we do. We have been together eight years and we have been swinging for the last three of them.
As long as everybody is on board with it, it's everybody's fantasy, and nobody is being coerced or manipulated into doing it, than there is no harm done by it. However, if your friend is doing it just to please her fiance and really isn't into it herself than I'd steer clear of it.
Swinging is the great equalizer in relationships since to do it successfully you have to be very unselfish and very secure. Everything has to be equal to prevent resentment from coming up.
For instance, if her fiance has a FMF fantasy that he wants her to fulfill, than he better be open to the idea of a MFM should she ever want it. Doesn't mean she'll do it, BUT her fiance has to be okay with it happening should she ever want to. If not than they better not wade into that pool or she will end-up resenting him because he is being selfish and insecure when it comes to her fantasies, wants, and needs.
So if everybody is on-board with it, and they are on the same page about it, than go ahead. If not, stear clear of the situation. You don't want to be in the middle of their drama.
2006-12-01 19:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask for a recount. No matter what the rules are at the beginning, someone is always left out. Once that door is opened it's impossible to close. Some things are better left for the ones missing brain cells, scruples and self respect.
2006-12-01 16:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh lord, been there done that. what a fiasco. same scenario, she and he were engaged and he wanted a 3some cuz he had never been with any other woman. Well, she and I "forgot" about him. heh heh. and he got mad and left. We didnt even notice he was gone, but boy did she have h3ll to pay the next day.
I don't advise it!
I'm not saying the same thing will happen to you, I'm just pointing out that it can get messed up if someone gets jealous, whether it be you, him or her.
2006-12-01 15:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should get rid of her fiance'. After their marriage, what else would he want? Your friendship would suffer if you did this. You would have to live with the fact you did this the rest of your life and how could you face them later. BAD idea. She should tell him to take his fantasy and shove it, into three others if he can find them. This is not a serious relationship, it is a joke.
2006-12-01 15:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by marsha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Hell No!!! He would hold it over her for the remainder of their relationship. If it is him with 2 women, he would look at it as permission for him to cheat in the future. And if it were him, her, and another guy...he would always see her with the other guy in the future, and he would never trust her again. Trust me this is a no win situation.
2006-12-01 15:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by mischa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldnt because thats like sharing! I couldnt be in a serious relationship and lets somone else touch on my lover! Thats just me...Im stingy. And you shouldnt do it with your friends lover either. Its just not right
2006-12-01 15:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kea M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 somes can be very difficult...because if 1 person feels left out or somehow slighted it can get really ugly later...think about this if you want to stay friends...it may well work for you but it may cost you a friendship.
2006-12-01 15:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in a relationship now, but have been.
I can honestly say , NO. It will screw everything up. You will never feel the same way about each other again.
2006-12-01 17:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋