2006-12-01 14:58:52 · 15 answers · asked by jrgimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is one of four reasons:
1, She or someone else you dated in the past has given you reason to be mistrustful (if it was not her do not make her suffer the consequences)
2. You were raised to believe that is not a woman's place to do a thing like that (time to make your own mind up....does she question it if you go out to the bars with the guys?(
3. You are insecure and feel she might find something better (work on your security.....she picked you....cherish that and don't make her feel imprisoned)
4. You are wary of her friends and think they will lead her astray or do not trust the guys out there (trust that she is intelligent enough, if she is, and cannot be swayed by others as easily as you think)
Unless you know she is acting badly, try to relax and give her some slack. Don't let this issue be a catalyst in putting a wedge between you. Have a long and happy life together. Good luck.
2006-12-01 16:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is not right she is married. Some advice if you complain about it she will get mad say your trying to control her. I told my ex that i didn't care if she went out just asked if she would stop getting so wasted everytime and if she would call if she were going to stay out later than she planned, just made things worse would come home an hour after bar closed couldn't hardly walk i would have to hold her hair and clean her up after she puked she would say sorry and cry and ask a month later if i mind if she went out with the girls. I thought she would out grow it but that never happened and now that we are divorced she goes out every weekend she doesn't have the kids and dumps them off on my mom about half the time she does have them. It is funny that my 12 year old can see she acts like a teenager but she can't see it. And no i don't put the idea in his head i don't talk bad about her in front of or anywhere around my kids.
2006-12-02 05:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by jdevil_74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it isn't appropriate behavior for a married woman going to bars with her friends. You know it I know it; A marriage is based on trust and respect. I don't trust those guys in the bars and they don't respect the fact she is a married woman (good enough for me that's wrong, It doesn't matter that she loves you they don't care). If she wants to go to a bar how come your not invited? Men are looking for women just like your wife, purely innocently going out with the girls just so they can see if they can; Stop and think, do you want your wife to end up with some guy because she may have had one to many (I'm not saying she drinks allot) or one of her girlfriends gets into a situation that involves another man they don't know from adam. Sit her down and tell her it has to stop, if if she tells you no and that you won't allow her to be with her friends tell her not in that kind of setting and ask her if she understands that you don't want anything to happen to her. Paranoid, I don't think so not in this day and age. I hope I helped you?
2006-12-01 23:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers me when my boyfriend goes out to the bars without me. I don't like it because i worry that he is either hitting on other girls, or getting hit on by other girls, and allowing it. It bothers me, but i know i am just being paranoid. I know he would never cheat on me, and he's never done anything that would cause me not to trust him. You are probably worrying for no reason too. If you have no reason not to trust her, then you have no reason to worry about her at the bars. And if you still worry, then just try talking to her about it.
2006-12-01 23:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to the bars with the girls is something she should have gotten out of her system before she married you. It bothering you is perfectly normal. She is a snot. Give her some of her own medicine. Go out with the fellas, and mabe that will wake her up. Her friends aren't really her friends. Why would a friend want to get someone in trouble with their spouse?
2006-12-02 06:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably bothers you because the majority of people who are "clubbing" are also "looking". My husband would have a fit! But I understand because I would hate it if he were to go out with "the guys" to a club without me. Its just not the place for anyone married unless they are there together. A girls night out should be to a spa or dinner or movie or shopping. Guys night out should be hunting or bowling or fishing. Tell her how you feel and why.
2006-12-01 23:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. One day she will grow up and start staying home. But for now, just enjoy your freedom, one day when she gives up the bar, she will pick up nagging, and complaning, and gripping. Mabe one day you will wish she would go out with the girls.
Na, Jokeing.
your in love with her. Of course you will be uneasy of the chance someone may put there hands on her to dance with her. Just think, she will come home and take all that excitment out on you. So take a shower, and get ready. Her comes your mama
2006-12-01 23:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she should be going out with you. She is married to you, so she should spend more time with you, not go out alone with her friends. You don't even know if they are all girls or are there men too.
2006-12-02 04:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you know shes up to no good, if shes married and still hangin in da bar scene.
2006-12-01 23:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it bothers you because you think she might meet another guy there and it could end up in a wrong relation ship it looks like you will just have to trust her.
2006-12-01 23:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋