my son is 15 he never goes out his made his only friend that lives 5 doors away the only thing is is mate is 15 years older then my son but they share the same interest thier both wrestling fans and my boyfriend hates it he wants me to stop him coming round just because my boyfriend dont like my sons friend. any advise out there please.
2006-12-01 14:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by A A 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would worry about a 30 year old man spending too much time alone with a 15 year old boy. Especially one who has trouble making friends. They are really good targets for pediphiles. Please be careful! Your son may not tell you because he may not even realize that he is being seduced. Often young, lonely boys will even fall in love with those who are exploiting them. I don't want to point fingers at someone I do not know but please check it out for yourself.
2006-12-01 14:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by barksabit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get to know your son's friend and make the decision yourself if its a healthy or unhealthy relationship. If it is, ask the adult to nicely leave the picture.
Your son will probably move along fine and make more friends. If he's not in high school yet, when he is, they usually offer wrestling programs. That will get your son into another mix of friends as well.
If they don't offer wrestling...see if you can find a program in your area since this is his interest.
My only reservation is the age of his friend. If its harmless - that's cool. Your son doesn't have a live-at-home father - so he's probably connecting in this way...kind of emmulating him.
Not sure about the boyfriend issue. Its not his son so he doesn't get to chose his friends or what he does. Sorry, been there...divorced that.
You're the mom...do what mom' do...care, watch and listen to what your son says...and doesn't say.
2006-12-01 23:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Your son really needs friends and you sure don't want to take one away. I would let him hang out with the guy only if someone else is present with them. Try your local boys clubs or find a sport or something your son is interested in. He can join a club and meet friends his own age that way. Good luck!
2006-12-01 23:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same tendency's when i was younger, i ended up joining football and wrestling in high school and my social life just developed from there, don't make friends for him but put him in better positions to make them. have him get a job (part time) at a movie theater or have him join a sport of some kind, unless there is something pathologically wrong with him it will happen naturally
im not touching the 30 year old friend thing thats your call
did you consider his friend might be diggin you?
2006-12-01 23:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by RagingRoids 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If barksabit is right then you should check it out with the local police. Convicted pedophiles have to register. Even if he is wrong, it's worth the effort to know.
2006-12-01 23:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by St N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋