I've been married for over a month now but husband still doesnot have sex with me!..he says he wants to but never actually does it!...prior to getting married we lived together for almost 4-5years, and had sex a couple of times, then stopped as he was afraid that I would get pregnant..I cannot take birth control(for medical reasons)...I though he would change after we got married...apart from this he is a very loving and caring person, he is fun to be with...and he loves company!...so we rarely get to spend time with each other..even if we do, we will be doing something like watching a movie etc...Im feeling quite frustrated and angry...I dont think I can take anymore of this...We have talked about this problem, but everytime he says "it will happen, dont worry"...I cant leave his cos I really love him, and know that he loves me...What do I do to show him that it's a problem for me, and that I will have to change if he continues to act like this?....
2006-12-01 14:45:59 · 18 answers · asked by Sapphire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He wants kids but not right now, and we have tried condoms...but stil he is the same
2006-12-01 14:54:26 · update #1
You need to explain your dissatisfaction to your husband, no matter the consequences. It is eating away at you and will ultimately erode your seemingly happy relationship if you continue to feel frustrated. Tell your husband you fear that your relationship will be threatened by this, and it would make you feel better to go to couples counseling. This will allow you to dig deeper into your husband's possible sex problem.
2006-12-01 15:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say ...you have a lovely set of T's there.
Now .... if you knew he wasn't a race horse in the sack for the first 4 or 5 years ... a ring isn't gonna improve that!
He seems to have issues ... those that even the most devoted partner can't fix...... I'm shootin' from the hip ... but I'd go with the intimacy counseling ... different than marriage counseling .... they teach folks how each other works and where the hidden go buttons are...... they will teach you the tools to make your "Husband & Wife" time more satisfying ......
But if it broken .. and you still have the reciept ... do the return ..... if not you may wanna consider trading up for a model that has fully functional hydrolics !!
Good Luck
2006-12-01 23:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I dont think I've ever meet a man who doesn't want to have sex. Please dont take this personal, even though I think you will, but this is the only thing that comes to my mind, is he gay? Which he probly wouldn't tell you anyhow, so I would go see a therapist if I were u. Good Luck and I hope I haven't ticked u off to bad. God BLess
2006-12-01 23:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is afraid of getting you pregnant or he's cheating. One of the two or maybe even both. Be careful, I had one like that and he was cheating, so I got the short end of the stick being the wife. The OTHER WOMAN got the best. God bless you!
2006-12-01 23:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure hes not cheating. You know how to do it your a women. If hes not, then this is an issue you should have put to rest before marriage. Counseling and the little blue pill might just work.
2006-12-01 23:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by antwon c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel, if nothing changes, divorce him and remain friends. If you stay with him, you will have a lifelong of unhappiness with him. If you knew he doesn't want kids why did you marry him knowing that you can get pregnant ?
2006-12-01 22:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your narrative made me think of closet gays. It seems quite common for borderline gays and bisexuals to get married as part of their camouflage; projecting an image of normalcy. I could be wrong, so perhaps you should not take any drastic moves, observe him more closely. If I am wrong, it's time professional help is engaged.
2006-12-01 23:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't fix problems that exist, so you must tell him exactly how you feel and if this does not move him to change, then I would have to say divorce him now while it is easier.
2006-12-01 23:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be...he just wants NO childern right now. try to bring some rubbers home an see if this won't incourage him to have protected sex...
2006-12-01 22:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm honestly not joking, but like Mechelle said it is possible he's gay.
2006-12-01 23:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋