uM....hI my name is Fredrick, and i am married. I have loved my wife and 6 children for 17 years now. When I saw this movie brokeback mountain that came out, it was like the story of my life, except....I never got caught....I have been having sexual relations with my friend at 7 11, during his graveyard shift for about 5 years now. One night I went into 7/11 to buy a slurpie, but insted me and him hit it off. So what should I do....Be with the man I love and Adore. Or stay with my wife and teenage sons....Please help...
2006-12-01 14:43:59 · 21 answers · asked by help you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Getting it on in 7-11. Wow! I say you ditch your wife. She is WAY to freaking good to be with the likes of you.
Six kids...who gives a rip? We all know it is all about YOU! and your needs for a midnight Slurpee call @ the 7-11.
Give your wife a chance to be with a real man....and your sons an opportunity to have a decent role model in their home.
Run away with Slurpee Boy...I am sure you will live happily ever after.
2006-12-01 14:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by lisalisa 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Ultimately, you are asking if ignorance is bliss, and, if love conquers all.
If you truly believe that you are in love with this man, you need to do what is best for all involved.
Do you know that if you left your wife and children, that this man would love you still? Sometimes, it is the allure of an illicit affair that brings people together, not love.
If you have six sons, how is this going to affect them?
In today's age, it is common for people to do what is best for them as individuals and not care about the others. I laud you for taking your wife and sons into consideration.
Finally, your wife has a right to know that you have not been faithful. Whether or not you have used protection, you have been intimate with another person, and your wife trusts that you have not been with another person. This is completely unfair to her. Consider that and tell her.
You made your choice five years ago, when you decided to betray your wife and cheat on her.
Good luck with your decisions.
2006-12-01 23:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have never been in this situation before but i saw it happen to a friend of mine
don't deny who you are, if you think you will be happy with that guy make the sacrifice, but also take into consideration that you will be alienating your current family as your kids might not understand and your wife may begin to hate you, but on the same note if you are no longer totally satisfied with your current life style and you may actually need to end it with them anyway because you will alienate your wife and kids because you will feel like you are living a lie and express so using body language and your tone of voice during day to day routines
honestly this is a huge problem that is now appearing in our (American) culture where married men find out that they prefer the other side of the fence so to speak and Begin to have a crisis of sexuality
ask your self who you really are and hope you answer yourself honestly, once you make the decision don't look back because regret is the destroyer of the consciousness
2006-12-01 22:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by RagingRoids 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At some point, you need to be honest with your wife. It is concerning that you are putting her physical/mental health in danger by continuing your behavior. If you tell your wife the truth, it will kill her inside, but sometimes the truth hurts. If you two are truly friends, you can make it through. Your wife will be angry and hurt, and you need to be ready for the consequences. Both of you united in marriage and support six children. Remember, the children come first...it is up to both of you if you tell them. Perhaps, seek counseling to ease the transition. Also remember, you will always be their father.
2006-12-01 23:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Nut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gotta get out of this double life. Come clean with your family and salvage your pride. You may be better posting this in the G&L section under cultures (or something like that). Be true to yourself and give your wife the benefit of finding someone that loves her as much as she loves them. BTW, cheating is an integrity issue, not an atttraction or desire issue. Bone up on your integrity.
2006-12-01 22:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one can judge you but God. The worst thing you can do is Not tell your wife, after all you are endangering her life. You have let this secret go on for to long. Please do the right thing especially if you love her. Who knows, if she does leave you, you and she could possible be friends after some time. But give her some time, no women wants to find out her husband is gay. I hope in the end everyone can be happy.
2006-12-01 23:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by antwon c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my god, i have no idea what to say, except that your wife will be devastated-----she has spent 17 years with you and has kids with you---ewwww, are you sure you did not give her any stds---i mean that is your choice to be with your man, but please consider others and don't get ur wife sick---she has a right to know especially if you are sleeping w/ her AND that man----i mean she is trusting you to be clean and if her health/life is in danger she has a right to now----Good Luck!
2006-12-01 23:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you for real? if you are, realize you have a responsibility w/ your wife and children. decide what's best for them. if you will never be happy w/ them again because of your beloved, then you're going to have to bite the bullet.... and tell everyone, make arrangements for the alternative life you desire. realize you will devastate your family, but they will get over it eventually, if they unconditionally love you (like family members should).
this one's obvious... just don't abandon your family (like the main character in BB)
2006-12-01 22:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by sugarghost 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any problem at all with gays or lesbians, but I really have no sympathy towards men like you, gays who doesn't come out and pretend to live a straight life with disgrace and making his family suffer when he finally realizes that he is really gay! For God Sakes!! if you're gay...don't start a family (with a woman) you will make their life a living hell, not mentioning the risk of STD's when you have sex with someone else besides your wife. If you would've been honest with yourself you wouldn't found yourself in this situation!!! Be honest with yourself and be what you want to be!!
2006-12-01 22:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you have loved?? your wife?? meaning you do not love her anymore? well it wouldn't be fair to your wife for you to still be with her while getting your booty calls at 7-11 with another guy. you should not stay with someone after cheating on them. especially with the same sex. good luck!
2006-12-01 22:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋