My Grandmother just left from her unannounced week long visit, and I am finding little pills all over the house. I have a seven month old son in that phase where he picks up tiny thing between two fingers and puts them in his mouth. I have vacumed and cleaned and searched with a flashlight, and I even found two tiny pills on my son's play mat - and I'm a nurse. I know if he had swallowed those pills, he might have died.
I am livid. I don't want to allow my grandmother in my house again for such blunt carelessness - what should I say to her and how?
2006-12-01 14:37:49 · 6 answers · asked by emmyfair 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Explain to her your concern about your son. You don't have to not allow her to come over but just tell her that she should be more careful or you won't be able to have her come over anymore. Explain to her how your son is now picking up things and those tiny pills could kill him. I'm sure she's not doing it on purpose. And i'm sure she wants to see her grandson. Just be nice about it but be stern. Good luck
2006-12-01 14:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give her the benefit of the doubt.
As a nurse you know that when you get older your senses start to fade. I'm guess her eyes are failing her. She could even have glaucoma and just not wanting to worry anyone with it.
Also, her fingers probably are working well and she's thinking she's losing her mind cuz she just picked up that pil...
I'd get her a pill organizer. You can buy them at any drugstore. Get them in the month size and have her (even help her) organize the pills. That way she knows if that pill isn't there she's dropped it.
My grandmother was the same way. By the time we realized she had glaucoma it was to late. Too far gone to be treated. Please don't let that happen to yours! We've been slowly loosing her after that...her eyes are her livelyhood. She always loved crosswords, but can't see to do them...not even the extra large ones.
I would tell her what you found, and that you are concerned about her eyesight. Then go from there...please be gentle. But, do tell her about the concern with your son ingesting them!! Those are life threatening for babies! Maybe that will push her to tell you what's going on.
Good Luck!
2006-12-01 14:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...calm down, take a deep breath..I know how easy it is to get worked up over something that can be potentially dangerous to your child....I am sure that this is not something that your grandmother intended to do. She is used to living by herself, (or not) and definitlely not used to having little ones around and having to keep this sort of thing out of reach. I'm sure it was not a complete disregard on her account. She probably didn't even realize it. How old is your grandmother? Would age be a factor in this? Forgetfullness?
I would let it go for now......if she does come back for a visit, explain to her beforehand of your concerns and that she needs to be very careful with her medication. You could purchase one of those pill boxes, that are marked with the days of the week..and when she does come to visit..you could help her divide her pills up, place them in the container according to the days, and leave them for her on the bathroom sink with a cup and perhaps, pitcher of water. That way, she knows where they are, they are easy for her to find and remember, she won't have to open/close and move bottles around, and, most importantly, they are out of reach from your sweet baby.
2006-12-01 15:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by brashaga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First calm down. I really doubt she was trying to kill her own great-grandson.
Second call her up and talk to her about it. Tell her what you found and ask if she remembers losing them. She might be getting to the point where she doesn't realize she's lost things, in which case it's not her fault.
If she doesn't you should surely ask her to see a doctor about it. And either way, you don't have to let her stay at your home anymore. I think if it happened to me, I would still let her visit but not stay. She'd have to be supervised and I'd ask her to leave her purse in her car and empty her pockets before coming in, just in case.
She'll probably be really sorry this happened and scared that she could have hurt your son. Just be kind with the words you use, because she might not even have known about it.
2006-12-01 15:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I understand the concern you feel here. But remember, she's your grandmother and she probably had no ill intentions and just wanted to see her great-grandson. Your anger is understandable but speak to her and be nice about it. A blow-up will not make matters any better and may cause greater strain. Good luck.
2006-12-01 15:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her in a firm yet curious way and express how worried and concerned you are about this, how it could have KILLED YOUR SON!!! Get her side and what she thinks about ti too, maybe there could be something else with this.
2006-12-01 14:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋