Im still a virgin and he is too!
Im so nervous and scared!
How does it feel?
Does it hurt?
PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-12-01 14:34:07 · 13 answers · asked by Mz.B0$$y 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It will probably hurt the first couple of times, but it will get better!
Make sure you are wet or use lubricant (Astroglide or something equivalent). You might bleed, some girls do. (I did)
Don't do it unless you feel comfortable and you actually WANT to.
Good luck!
2006-12-01 14:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely wait... how long is a long time to you? It definitely hurt for me the first time and girls usually don't get much out of it; it's more for the guy. I wished I would have waited, I did it too early and with a guy I thought I was going to be with forever but he ended up cheating on me after 3 years. If I could erase that from my memory I would be so grateful. You really don't think it's a big deal when you're going through that first time but afterwards, like maybe years after, you really start regretting it. Now some people don't regret it, but you never can tell. You don't want to do it if you think there might be someone else later on. Trust me, it's very regrettable. Also think why you're thinking of this...was it his idea or yours? If it was his idea, maybe some guys are pressuring him to do it already. Or if it's your idea, why are you wanting to? Is someone pressuring you into doing it? Are you afraid of losing him if you don't? Definitely do not do it if it's just to keep him around. It won't work. If you're having doubts about doing it, is it because you're not sure if it's the right time? If you have to question doing something, it's usually not the right time.
2006-12-01 14:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your virginity should be a special gift you give to someone who will love you and respect you, not because you have been with someone for a long time and you think you need to give him something to keep him interested. If your still nervous and scared your not ready yet.
Some women do hurt the first time when the hyman breaks and some women bleed a little too. Sex can get progressively better with more and more experience though so it isn't always bad.
2006-12-01 14:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by s91601 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i waited until i was 19yrs old to have sex with my boyfriend, and he was 20. We both were virgins and when the time was right it happend. We both were bestfriends before and then got together and became b/f and g/f. We were dating almost a year before we did this, and are still together. I think if it feels right for the both of you then go for it. Also know you shouldnt do it if your gonnd regret it later. Think ahead, what happens if the two of you break up? Are you gonna regret having sex with him? You really dont want to regret it, so wait till you find that person that you will never regret it with if you dont stay together. Dont be nervous or scared, yeah it will be different at first but if you love eachother it will all turn out okay :)
2006-12-01 15:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by kassie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have sex with him unless you can see yourself with him in 50 years, just b/c you've been with him for a long time (anywho how long is a long time???) it doesn't mean you owe him anything and you should wait,,, trust me me and my bf were both virgins too but 3 months later i found warts in my vagina and now i have hpv...thank god me and my bf are still together....
it didn't really hurt for me i just felt stretched_______----___---__ it kinda felt as if someone was jabbing me in the stomach strying to know the breathe out of me, but my friend had sex and she was in tears when she had sex...and he didn't even get in all the way.
hope that helped some.
2006-12-01 14:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question yourself....
Am I ready to be called Mommy and take care a baby for the next 18 years and send them to college?
Am i married?
Is he the love of my life I am willing to spend from now and forever and beyond with?
Do I have a nice paying Job?
Do I have okay living conditions?
Do i have the money?
Is it okay with my Husband, is he ready to be called Daddy?
Am I done with school with the degree I want or at least going for the Degree I want?
.......If you can answer no to any one of these questions the Answer is NO NO NO NO NO!!!
2006-12-01 14:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Golden Ivy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i can say is make sure that is really what you want to do..Cause I wish i could go back and wait until i got married..If you are not 100% sure than don't do it!!
2006-12-01 14:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by over worked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until he puts a ring on your finger and says i do..you may think this relationship is going to last forever but take a minute to think about the fact that it might happen..sex would make you become much more then emotionally attached..do you really want to go through that IF you break up..
2006-12-01 14:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by manda 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're nervous and scared, wait until you're not.
You're obviously not ready to have sex yet with anyone if you have to ask us these questions.
2006-12-01 15:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him walk you down the aisle first. Dont do it unless you are ready to accept the possible consequences of pregnancy or him movin on.
2006-12-01 15:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋