My three-year boyfriend and I have broken up for more than a year. We got separated and now things kinda getting back to normal, (i mean we're already in speaking terms with each other and we're kinda building on a good friendship). He was the one who broke up with me. He was on and off getting back at me when we broke up but I refused because i thought he wasnt ready. Lately I got sick and I nearly died, after that he hasnt stopped visiting me, calling me, and no amount of NO could shooo him away from me. I told him I don't want anything serious with him anymore but he still said he'd try anyway. I still have feelings for him but I'm too scared to get into the relationship. He asked me if we could get married after i graduate from college so he could bring me to another country where he plans to work, i was caught off guard because we're not even back to boyfriend-girlfriend mode yet but he is opening up a lot of future plans with me.
2006-12-01 14:31:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He keeps on asking me where I plan to work, my plans after graduation,...... etc....... He is actually willing to delay his trip abroad just to wait for me.! i don't know what to do! because i know that i have a lot to fix with myself. but i was honest with him that im not ready but he still said he'd wait. But i dont want him to wait and hold his life still. I want him to go abroad and go forth his dreams. but he said he can't go there without me so if im not ready he'll wait. but im not sure about the future. i dont know what to do.
any words????????
2006-12-01 14:31:33 · update #1
Watch the "Anne of Green Gables" movies. Ann refused Gilbert because she didn't know how she really felt.... until he almost died. That's when she realized how much she really loved him. Isn't it just possible that almost losing you taught him what you meant to him? Why not give him a chance..... but if you are uncomfortable with his rushing into it.... ask him to slow down and give you time?
God Bless,
Sue
2006-12-01 14:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women would die to have what you have....Can't you tell that he loves you and is offering you a future with him.
This may be once in a life time thing, are you willing to let it go by. Just put 10 years on you life and look where you are, do you miss him or are you happy....I hope you make the right choice for you..........good luck
2006-12-01 22:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by faith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how confusing the story can become or what he says or does. the bottom line is that you must quiet your thought and listen to your feelings, your heart. Only then will you be doing the right thing for you.
2006-12-01 23:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would simply tell him that you do not want him to wait for you as you are not sure what you want at the moment but if you do decide that you want to be with him that you will go looking for him but just keep is mobile number so if you do decide then you can contact him
2006-12-01 22:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by megan p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time. What's the rush. It may be legitimate and what you're feeling about being apprehensive is normal..I would be more concerned if you weren't.
2006-12-01 22:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will tell, just follow your heart...who knows he could become your soul mate...besides he probably didn't know what a good thing he had until he almost lost it forever.
2006-12-01 22:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by moaehahi1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he loooves you ALOT doesnt he. Well, just tell him that you not feelin the love. telll him that you want to move on and experiance new things. MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND. COMMUNICATE!
2006-12-01 22:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by LuvaLuver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋