im 15 and my boyfriend wants to marry me. i dont know what to do. im only 15 and he is 17. HELP me plz i dont know wht to do. plz plz plz. im only a freshmen in high school. but he says he will wait for anthor three years. but he wants me to say yes. i really need help.
2006-12-01 14:06:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he says hell wait as long as he has to. i tell him that i think he should find someone else.
2006-12-01 14:35:16 · update #1
Take a deep breath, stand up straight, and just say "No." Tell him it is normal for people to grow into themselves before they would even think of a binding relationship. Cut his idea off at the knees and keep your mental freedom. He has no business talking like that.
2006-12-01 14:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not gonna tell you that, thats way too young because im sure youve heard to many times.. It all up to you... But i will tell you that I got married when I was 20 an we've only been married for 8 months now.. An i wish I would of waited for awhile an had some fun with my friends.. Guys always change an seems that the more time that goes by the more jealous they get an just think they own you... Here im getting ready to turn 21 an wanna go out to bars with my girlfriends an have a good time an I know it wont ever happen because now we all have a kid an jealous husbands.. so you may aswell say we have 2 kids lol.... But hun trust me you have alot of time, take some time for your self to have some fun... If not you'll regret later... ;) Best of luck But i also know how love is.. lol ;)
2006-12-01 22:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as soon as you really get into the high school thing. I'm almost positive that you will not still be together. It is very rare. Don't get married so soon. Explore your possibilities. There are a lot of other guys out there. If you do decide this being so young someone will wind up getting their feelings hurt bad. I thought I was with the guy I was going to marry when I was 17. I realize now that I was only fooling myself. Keep dating him. But don't be so quick to believe that this is the guy you will spend the REST of your life with. Good Luck.
2006-12-01 23:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetie. You need to tell this guy to slow down. You haven't had enough time yet to even really get to know what you want in your future husband. There is so much divorce today, and being such a horribly sad thing to go through it is something you should try to avoid at all costs. The best way to do that is to really, truly get to know what you want in a man (by dating several) and take your time to make a smart, thoughtful choice. My husband and I dated ten years before we got married and we were in our late twenties. While I don't recommend dating for THAT long, I will say that I thank our long courtship for the AMAZING marriage that we do have. Many people are envious of our marriage because we KNOW how to solve our problems (of which we have few) and we know practically everything about each other. People see how much we love each other and how well our relationship works.
When I walked down the aisle, I KNEW - absolutely KNEW - that he was the one for me.
Make sure that you have time to first find out what you want and have all of the wonderful 15-year-old experiences you deserve before making such a life-changing choice.
If he loves you, you should be able to tell him that you are not ready and he will understand.
Best of luck. :o)
2006-12-01 22:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anne C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him enough to live with him for the rest of your life. He told you he was giving you another 3 years to really make up your mind. If you feel you love him and want to marry after 3 years tell him yes, if not just tell him you feel your a Little young to become engaged at this time. 3 years a lot can change , he may find someone and you may also find another you care more about. You know your not marrying him your just really just dating him regularly. That gives you both plenty of time to see how things go. Best of luck to both of You.
2006-12-01 22:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, are you pregnant? If you aren't, then don't get that way! You are way to young to even be talking about this subject. I'm assuming this is your first boyfriend, and you are his first? If so, please take my advice and don't get to serious at your young age. I got married at 21, and I have been married for 21 years now. I don't regret marrying at that age, but I wish I would have waited a few more years. I would have loved to have hung out with my friends a lot more. When you're married, your husband comes first! So tell your boyfriend you just want to be friends for now! It'll be the best thing you ever do!
2006-12-01 22:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by SMRT1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no! You are way too young to make this type of decision right now. I'm not saying it will never happen, but you have your whole life ahead of you. Wouldn't you rather go to school or find some sort of job to further your future? Please, listen to me, I got married right out of high school and I was no where near ready for it. Take the time and decide what it is that you want. You have a voice sweetie, tell him no.
2006-12-01 22:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should really wait until you feel like you want to get married. If he pressures you, maybe he isn't the one. Nobody should get married because they feel like they have to.
I would tell him that you can discuss this in the future, but you are not ready to discuss marriage at the age of 15. If you saying this makes him run, then you're probably better off without him. You will have many, many chances in life to think about getting married.
2006-12-01 22:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think the purpose of the question is just to gauge how much you really love him. honestly i don't think you could still commit to that question after three years, sorry. you guys are still too young. and so much can still happen. you might argue that you really love each other. but i have heard that same situation a lot of times before. and most have not ended up together. actually it also happened to me before. i was telling this girl how much me and my gf are planning to get married in the future and how much we love each other. what happened was, i married the other girl instead of my gf. so there is really no assurance.
2006-12-01 22:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're not sure right now because you are very young. Tell him to ask you again in 3 years. Even at 18 though, that's so young! If you're not ready to marry or get engaged, don't do it! If he really loves you, he'll wait. He might also be giving you a 'we're going to get married' line so that you'll put out. So, tread wisely.
2006-12-01 22:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋