with the one you love? Ever really yell at them and want to throw somthing at them? Ever call them such horrible nasty names you couldn't believe it was coming out of your mouth? Ever stay mad even the next day? Then the following day you're still annoyed and swear you won't speak to them until they get on their knees and apologize?
Then you hear their laugh in the next room. Then they say something nice and you remember why you love them so much and you're appalled at the things you said during the fight, and they didn't apologize but you want to kiss them and you feel like a sucker for not standing your ground and getting your apology? Now the holidays are coming and you want a happy house so you want to forget it but it makes you feel more suckerish because you let it go - AGAIN - with no apology? Ever happen to you?
Demand the apology or let it go - AGAIN - for the sake of peace?
2006-12-01 13:47:57 · 7 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds a lot like what I went thru for 20 years up until the day my husband died. We argued, he was abusive, he wouldn't apologize, and wouldn't admit he was abusive. I always made sure to give him gifts for his birthday, fathers, day, Christmas, you name it. I never got a gift from him. I always wanted an apology, but got never got one until the abuse got bad enough that he could see me in a cast. Only then did I get an apology. By then he knew an apology wasn't enough and he would give me money and tell me to buy whatever I want.
2006-12-01 14:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by marie_roberts2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, no. My lover and I don't really have arguments like that. One of us will get angry and the other one is usually smart enough to keep calm. Sometimes, if we're both too upset, I'll leave the room. About 3 minutes later he follows me and we calmly discuss whatever it was that set us off. I'm always fasinated by couples that scream and yell instead of bickering. Niether his parents nor mine have had screaming fits, just bickering or raised voices leading to proper conversation. Why not be reasonable and civil? This sort of behavour will never make any sense to me.
If what you were arguing about doesn't matter to you much anymore, let it go. If you haven't reached closure on the issue, sit down with your lover and have a cool and calm discussion. Leave the strong emotions out if it. Be rational.
THINK!
2006-12-01 21:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An apology should be given, not expected.
Forgiving is a very good way to receive an apology, however let it come naturely - it will have true meaning that way.
2006-12-01 22:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sailon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel. you might have to let him go because sepeaking from experience, it doesnt get better. if you really loved each other you wouldnt say things like that to eachother. you are in a verbally abusive relationship from what you wrote. get out before it gets worse. and believe me it will because men like that dont change. they may for a little while but it wont last
2006-12-01 21:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let go of it an work towards a happier marriage....
2006-12-01 21:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think again..
anger is the culprit, stubborness is the accomplice
2006-12-01 21:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by sgbdk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever, drama queen.
2006-12-01 21:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋