This is a really good friend of mine. i've known her for years. We hadn't been around each other for a while and then a month or so after we had been hanging out she came out to me. I just want to know how i can be supportive because this has been a difficult time for her. I don't think she chose to be this way and i still love her as a close friend.
2006-12-01 13:19:02 · 12 answers · asked by silver08 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thankyou everyone for your advice. I'll do the best i can to support my friend and let her know that i care.(and no, "doug" I don't need preaching to. I just want to accept people and love them unconditionally the way the real Jesus would do.)
2006-12-01 15:03:01 · update #1
you just be her friend! that's all there is to it. you treat her like you would treat anybody else. she's still the same person she was before she came out to you. if you have any questions, just ask her, i'm sure she's more than happy to answer anything. just be her friend!
2006-12-01 13:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Smith Jerrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do is just be there for her. Just keep treating her the way you always have. If she starts asking your opinion on things that you really just don't know anything about, just be truthful with her and tell her you don't know. She will probably just want someone to listen to her, not solve any problems. Congratulations on wanting to support her the best that you can, that is what will mean the most to her!!
2006-12-01 21:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a very close friend, I have known for years, and in High school he told me he was gay. At first I was confused like you, but as time went by, I decided that it was ok, it was his choice. You should look like it like this: If you feel she didn't choose to be like this, then just set the bounderies, you are off limits.... (if you are a girl yourself) simple and effective, but at the same time just talk to her about "girls" like you would anyone else at any other time. she hasn't changed as a person or as a friend, she has just changed her preferance in her sexuality. There is nothing wrong with being bi or a lesbian.
2006-12-01 21:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by jillifly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with her, listen to her and don't make judgmental remarks or offer advice unless you know what you're talking about. I think she might just need a good, nonthreatening listener for now.
2006-12-01 21:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her as a friend, then tell her. She is needing to hear this from you.
2006-12-01 21:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is be supportive and treat her the same way you always have. that's all she really wants
2006-12-01 22:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally act the same way you always have.
2006-12-01 21:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by mom*2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be by her side every step of the way, comfort her , talk to her about it ,if she is a les. than support her everyday.
2006-12-02 00:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by matthew w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act the same way you always have , be honest and a sister .
2006-12-01 21:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by dawn_horger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there no matter what and make sure that u dont judge any of her actions
2006-12-01 21:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by allie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋