I told everyone on here yesterday about me and my wife. We had been trying to have a baby for a little over a year and finally she got that phone call that said she pregnant and cried for hours. Then painted and decorated the spare room and baby proofed the entire house. She had a miscarriage not so long ago and hasnt gotten up much or even talked. I brought home flowers, made dinner, and wrote a letter to her telling her how much I love her and us. She just kissed me on the cheek and went back to bed. I can't get a response out of her and she just stares at the wall with her head buried in the pillow. My main concern is her mental stability but she refuses to see a doctor. I'm trying to give her her space but it's killing me to see her like this.
2006-12-01 13:11:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Wow...that almost made me cry. I answered your question yesterday, I'm sorry to hear things aren't getting any better. Just remember it takes time. You sound like an awesome husband! Give yourself kudos for that. I hope your taking some time to grieve for yourself. Her body is probably still adjusting as well as her mind. Women feel very connected to they're children even before they are born. She lost a part of her, and you lost the chance at being a daddy for right now. You still have your future together and you will always have the chance to try try try again when the time is right. Keep your head up and smile. Sounds like your doing your best to try and keep her spirits up. Best wishes to both of you.
2006-12-01 13:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~A~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no.. I'm sorry on the bad news. She is probably..or obviously devesated at what happened. Depending on how long ago it happened? But stressing out is no good not only for her but for her body! It seems that your an awesome guy and have tried everything from being a best friend to a romantic hubby. I would try to give her her space a little bit long and if it doesnt work then try seriously sitting her down and talking to her. Let her know that God is on your side and to never say never, your time will come and she will get the little baby she wants. Good luck!
2006-12-01 21:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kablina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone she is grieving. Some people take a long time. Besides a miscarriage is hard on a woman not only emotionally but physically. The body was geared up to prepare for a birth and now that birth is not going to take place. It's kind of like slamming the brakes on in a care going 100 mph down hill.
2006-12-01 21:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you and your wife. My husband and I also went through a miscarriage and I acted alot like your wife. I was very depressed and emotional. I didn't want to talk to anyone including my husband who was so supportive. It took me about 6 months to really get over losing our baby. I still think of it to this day. It's harder on the woman and it's so easy for us to blame ourselves. Just remain supportive and let her know she can talk to you. Having someone to talk to can help. Having a miscarriage is painful because you don't really get a chance to say goodbye. One minute your'e pregnant and the next your'e not. It's hard and she may never get over losing the baby. What really helped me was information. More women have miscarriages than people think and finding support from women who have been through it can be extremely helpful. I wish you and your wife good luck in the future.
Oh and most women who miscarry go on to have healthy pregnancies in the future. I know this to be a fact so keep your head up. Good luck. Your wife is very lucky to have someone like you in her life.
2006-12-01 22:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy2Girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs time to grieve, and you are doing the right thing.
Keep giving her the support she needs, and keep reminding her of how much you love her.
If she doesn't start to feel even a tiny bit better after a few weeks, suggest that she see a therapist, or even suggest she confide in a friend or relative, if she doesn't want to talk to you.
Give her space, but if she gets any worse, or if she doesn't get any better at all in the near future, start trying to get her to talk to someone.
I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-01 21:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs help from you and a professional person as well when I had my miscarriage it took over everything I felt like I could move on like I had done something to cause my miscarriage hold her cry with her tell her to tell you so that you can understand just promise to be patient with her
2006-12-01 21:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really really sad...im sooo sorry that happend to yall.......if i was you id greive with her...jump in bed get a love movie and a big box of chocolates and some ice ceam and go at it....you need to both talk about it and not shut each other out....tell her you love her and that maybe this is gods way of saying you have more time to love on each other before you love on someone else...(meaning the baby) you both have a lot to deal with you might even try running a nice hot bath with bubbles and candles ...and maybe when she starts feeling a little better buy her some nice sexy outfit and have her dress up...itll happen...goodluck to you i really hope your wife and you start to feel better and get pregnant soon ...lots of baby dust on both of us!!!!
2006-12-01 21:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is still grieving.
You are doing everything you should be.
You can call the doctor yourself and tell them what she is like and what is going on with her. They might be able to do something.
Be patient, she will come around.
She knows you love her and she loves you.
2006-12-01 21:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal for her to be upset but she needs to realize that it wasnt just her baby it was yours too and you are also upset. if she is not dealing with this then you need to put her butt in the car and drive her to her dr.. for a check up... srry about the baby i know this is a tough thing to deal with..
2006-12-01 21:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by crazyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Dr can cure that kind of pain only time can cure it . Just love her and be their for her ..... all she needs is time and you .
2006-12-01 22:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋