My son has ADHD, he does not listen to his father or me, we have to ask him numerous times to stop a particular bahavior or come behind to make sure he does what he is suppossed to be doing, we also have to ask numerous times for him to finally do what he is asked to do. We have tried yelling, talking to him, taking away priveleges, and spanking him on occasion. It seems like everything we have tried is not working. I have also taken him to a counsleor, this has helped some but his behaves for a short period of time, basiscailly he behaves to earn something back that we have taken away from him because he has misbehaved, then once he gets it back, he goes right back to misbehaving again at school, at home, at the afterschool program, and on the school bus. He recently got suspended from the school bus for three days because he refused to do what the bus driver asked him to do.
2006-12-01 12:56:11 · 7 answers · asked by love2bepassionate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My son is on several medications: flovent 110 mg for his astma, Lortadine syrup for his allergies, Adderall XR 25 mg for his ADHD, Risperdal for his ADHD, Singulair for his Asthma and allergies, and clondine to help him wind down enough to be able to go to sleep at night. I have taken an active parenting class, and I have taken my son to counseling for behavior modification classes. My son has been going to a counselor from the ages of 2- 7 yrs. old. I allow my son out side, he likes to ride his bike, play basket ball, draw on the sidewalk with chalk, ride his scooter, ad play with his friends. My son also has arts and crafts: consrtuction paper, coloring books, crayons, markers, coloring pencils, plain white paper to draw on, paints, modeling clay and play doh. I do offer ways for him to channel his energy, when I am giving him attetion he's fine.That is why I posted the question, I thought may be someone could help by offering an idea or sugesstions that I have not thought of
2006-12-01 13:20:27 · update #1
I am not trying to control him, I am not wanting him to be something he is not. I am really concerned that my son does not listen even when there is a rule in place to keep him safe. I have to be constantly watching him because he runs off from the house, when we are in a store, does not pay attetion when he is crossing the street, and he climbs on anything and everything when he wants to. I have discussed these issues and/or concerns with his primary doctor and his counseluor. I live evey day worring my son is going to get hurt very bad and I will have to take him to the hospital and/ or his doctor and I worry they will think I was being neglectful and that is why my son got hurt. I can go into the bathroom to use it and by the time I come out I never know what I will find my son doing.
2006-12-01 13:37:16 · update #2
The counselor has suggested having someone come into my home to help with my son but this posess an issue because I work full-time and the paperwork would take 2-3 hours. I can not afford to miss too many days or hours from work. I get paid by the hour, my household is low-income.
2006-12-01 14:42:59 · update #3
Try Love and Logic. It's a parenting technique especially for different children. My child is language delayed and stubborn. It has worked wonders for him. Ask the school board if they have it or buy a book.
Once you try it, it will definately help. It has worked wonders w/my son.
2006-12-01 13:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Deana S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of joining a support group for families with children who have ADHD? I'm surprised your counselor has not given you any literature regarding this. You can find them on the internet or talk to your child's doctor. You are not doing anything wrong, but neither is your son. It may be helpful to talk to parents of children with similiar disabilities. Even if they can't give you complete answers, the understanding and support would be beyond helpful. Just having someone to call who actually understands what you are going through would do you a world of good. Good luck and God bless you and your family.
2006-12-01 14:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by creole woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God FIRST...! HE is your BEST resource for help since any improvement will be due to His approval, anyway... Why not STOP trying to have him fit into your idea of what (and who) he is and start letting him be himself... Give him constructive options... Like, buying a guitar or keyboard to let him channel that energy in some constructive way... He may have been misdiagnosed and actually be borderline autistic... STOP with the control, find out what he likes to do (that's constructive), and CONTINUE to give him other options so that he doesn't become obsessive and only feels "normal" (read: accepted) when he does 1 thing...
2006-12-01 13:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like to see a lot of kids on medication, but your son sounds like a candidate for Ritalin or another medication. Spanking and yelling are not going to help. Have you gone to an ADHD specialist? Have you talked it over with your family doctor? Your child needs help desperately, and you do, too. I know with medication and a structured behavior modification program, you can turn him around. Good luck.
2006-12-01 13:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he in modified classes? If he is, put him in a special school, if he isn't get him in some iep programs, and also.....he is not talking to the rite counselors
2006-12-01 13:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take your time with him and try to explain to him how hard it is for all of you during this period
2006-12-01 13:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by gjfdgoperjgoljerojgoirejj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my prayers.
They say God does not give us what we can not handle.
Is he not medicated? It really does wonders for them when they need it.
2006-12-01 13:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋