i just recentley found out that my sons best friends is gay!! I am trying to keep my son away from him. But i dont know if that is right, Because he is my sons friend. I dont know if my son knows, but i really dont want him hanging out with somebody who is gay! What should i do?
2006-12-01 12:51:14 · 19 answers · asked by Hayvynne Lachenski 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is pretty bad that you are keeping him away from someone because they are gay! If he were doing drugs though, I am sure you wouldn't make such a big deal about it. Since you are keeping them apart, your son must be pretty young so you are teaching him that because someone is different he should run. How is he going to get through life if he is not allowed to experience life... whether you like it or not, gay people have always been around and always will be. I am not gay but I know plenty of people who are ranging in the ages from 14 years old to 50 year olds and they are my friends, family, and students.
2006-12-01 12:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a real issue. It isn't just your son's issue either. You have some things to deal with as well as your son. Because your son's friend is gay doesn't mean that your son is. I have 3 boys. Their grandfather just passed away last week, he was gay. His son (my ex - the boys father) didn't speak to him for 23 years because of it. There is a lot of hurt in that family because of the fear of becoming gay and not accepting it.
My youngest son has a friend that is gay. My son isn't gay nor are his other friends. I have asked him WE have spoken about what we think about being gay. I have often thought...what I would do if one of my son's were gay....in all heart felt honesty... I would cry, be sad, stress out...but continue to love him as the wonderful person that they are.
Don't be frightened. Educate yourself and your son. Talk to your son about it and your beliefs. Listen to him and have him tell you what he thinks. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-01 13:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by smwah345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no right or wrong awnser to this question. All you can really do is talk to your son and tell him that you believe that it is wrong his friend is gay. However you can not make up your sons mind that choice is up to him and he has to choose in the end. Who knows you may see him as a threat now but if you look farther down the road he may just turn out to be your sons best friend or the only friend he has when he really needs one.
2006-12-01 12:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get over your homophobia. Gays are people too. I have lots of friends who are homosexual, but that has not affected me. I am straight. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now.
Second, you have no right to tell your child who they can and cannot hang out with, especially on such pretentious terms. If you tell your son "no," he is likely to do it just to go against you. Back off and let your child be who they are. Let them find out about the world on their own terms. Don't hold the reins in, let them lie comfortably so that he can see where he's going.
Third, this gay friend of his has done nothing to physically or emotionally harm you or your son, therefore there is no valid reason for you to tell your son to avoid this person.
Intolerance KILLS.
2006-12-01 12:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by hailyx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its ok for your son to hang out with a gay friend. Its a part of life & growing up. Don't worry. Just take care that what your son doesn't end up gay.
2006-12-01 12:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your sons friend is gay doesn't mean your son is going to turn gay. I'm as straight as they come, but I have gay friends... You shouldn't worry about it because this "gay" friend could be a true friend and everyone needs one of those..Also your son is going to be friends with him no matter what you say, unless he chooses not to...
2006-12-01 12:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Indymom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having gay friends. It's not a contagious disease. Would you not want your son to have friends of a different race? Would you not want your son to have friends who are wheelchair bound? These are things that can't be helped, its just how they are.
You need to learn to be more accepting of people and less elitist.
2006-12-01 13:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your son be friends with him. He can make his own judgement about this person. Theres nothing wrong with being gay. Also just ignore all the religous nuts on here who will tell u a bunch of crap about going to hell.
Don't make up his mind for him. Let him think for himself about whether or not he wants to be friends with this person.
2006-12-01 12:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.you shouldnt try to pick your sons friends if your son finds out he is gay,he will either choose to not hang out with him or else he will have a gay friend.if your son isnt gay,he will let his friend know he isnt that type of friend.i found out that my friend i graduated with is gay.we were friends for a long time before i knew.he even hung around me and my ex girlfriends and he never tried to hit on me because he knew i wasnt gay.if i would have known back then i still would have hung out with him.
2006-12-01 13:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by stealthmodel17404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your son be friends with him. this guy is confused and he might need a good friend to help him. you need to let your son make a decision about the friend. i'm not really into gay people either, but i just gotta remember that they are people too
2006-12-01 12:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋