I went with my hub 2 another state for 1yr we lived with his parents. When I mentioned moving out he didnt want to leave his parents alone w/ bills and rent. He got back in service when we were low on cash then was sent to Iraq. We finally mentioned geting an apartment & his mom automatically thought we were goin with them he says Were going to be married 2 years already we need out own place... But then things went down hill 5 mth later when we found out he had PTSD. He went through a counseling program which worked out great for about 3 mths but he would hang out with old no good buddies and come home at 123 in the morning. Not to mention he wasnt working we were low on cash so I decided we needed a break he went with his parents and i went with mine later He says I dont want 2 B with U unless U come live with me. Once again there i go with mom,dad,bro his g/f there 2 babies.Now he wants a divorce! I'm not mean its fustration I'm not disrepectful i just want 2 be w/my man alone!!
2006-12-01 12:46:06 · 9 answers · asked by MONICA P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I try to explain to him I'm not mad I'm fustrated we live with is parents,brother his G/F and there 2 babies and this is the second time. He says I'm disrepectful to his family b/c I dont want to be with them. Why is it so hard for him to understand all I want is to be alone just hubby and wife! I'm not saying I'm perfect but I cant believe he now wants a divorce when he's gone out several times comes home at 123 inthe morn. The way I see it is now that things are a tough he cant handle it . What i'm I doing wrong Why do you think he cant understand my part.
2006-12-01 13:50:43 · update #1
sorry I'm new to this theres alot of mistakes
2006-12-01 13:53:02 · update #2
Communication is the best policy...try communicate with him, tells him how you feel. Work things out before decide for a divorce...give the marriage another chance...it may worth the while and effort.
2006-12-01 12:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, you want to be alone with him. That you married him with the assumption that that meant living your lives together not living your lives + families lives together. You'll need to have a long discussion about this. Perhaps, you never talked about the importance of extended family prior to marriage, or perhaps, your husband has changed his values since going to Iraq. Find a way to compromise. Maybe an apartment in the same city as his parents, so he can visit them as much as he likes.
2006-12-01 12:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a mama's boy. He has a lot of excuses. His brother and girlfriend should help pay bills. They're probably the ones telling him to get rid of you.
2006-12-01 13:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by miss tique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take his putting you down once they learn that you will put up with it they will keep it up all the time tell him to pick witch one he want to live with you or his parents
2006-12-01 13:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by gjfdgoperjgoljerojgoirejj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just calm down and only speak when you are at ease. the less dramatic you are the more attractive and desirable you will be and he'll listen more to your feelings.
2006-12-01 12:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should learn to spell and form complete senteces first, then things should get better after that.
2006-12-01 13:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your husband either it's you or his parents and brother and sister,don't take that sh__t!!!!!!
he can't have a wife his parents and siblings
if he doesn't like it then get a divorce
2006-12-01 12:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to chill and except your lot in life. It is temporary.Things change!
2006-12-01 12:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then just tell him you want to be alone with him.
2006-12-01 12:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋