My 13 year old boy is in a very serious relationship and they always seem to be kissing and making out in public. I need to know if I should allow it or now. PLEASE HELP!!
2006-12-01 12:40:41 · 36 answers · asked by ntisme 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i'm a 13 girl. i think its sick.
2006-12-01 12:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by yaz 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Ok first of all, i disagree with all the people that say that 13 is too young for a serious relationship. I am 14 almost 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I am so happy with him. Our parents totally trust us, and I believe just knowing that we are being trusted like that kind of helps set boundries.
I dont think there is anything wrong with kissing or making out in public. I do think there is a problem with making out at restuarants or places that are formal. but your son will probably figure out very fast what places are acceptable for that and what places are not. I know my boyfriend and I did. Also, if you give him that opportunity, he will probably realize after a little but that there is more to it that just making out, and he will most likely not be as public about it.
Good luck with your son, and try thinking about it from his point of view also.
2006-12-01 13:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are so many exceptions: If it is a place people don't go such as an alley or heavily wooded areas (not a crowded park). In high school or college, its okay to make out in a club or car. I am a classy high school senior guy, who is still unconfortable kissing on a bench on a crowded sidewalk. Your son is trying to show his gf off. He is basically showing the people who walk by that he is able to score with a chick.
I would not allow your son to making out in public. In many public places, it isn't socially acceptable. Schools don't allow PDAs (Public Displays of Affection), because there is a time and places to make-out.
2006-12-03 11:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Steve C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's appropriate for 13 year olds (or anyone) to be "making out" in public.
Awkward for you, because it's not like you want him to be taking this into a dark room with no supervision though, either, right?
I suggest you explain that some signs of affection -- ie holding hands, walking with arms around each other, brief kisses -- is OK, anything more makes people around them uncomfortable and doesn't put them in the most positive light.
Suggest that they keep this activity to when they're at home, or alone (ie walking home from school, etc.)...but also firmly explain that they are way too young to go further, that there are serious consequences; ie share your families' values with him. If you don't want him to have sex 'till he's 18, say so. If you don't want him to have sex 'till he's married, say so. It doesn't mean he will "obey," but he'll certainly know how you feel about it. That said, you can also explain that you are always there for him, and that he should feel free to come discuss anything at all with you. That you take him seriously and will talk about anything.
2006-12-01 12:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Shars 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so. I know that I wouldn't want to see 2 13 year olds let alone anyone making out in public. *Mind you I am 13*
2006-12-02 08:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Watching anyone make out in public is disturbing and rude, if anything he should be taught manners, because for one there are too many people in this world who opinionate everyone else and think they are perfect and would call you a bad parent, even if you are a great parent, or would call your kid impolite names. People in this day and age think they are right and everyone else is wrong, if you are comfortable with it, then you do what you want, if you know you are a good mother, then you don't have to prove yourself to any one else but the person you look in the mirror each day! If you are fine with it, then let him, but just remember, people are heartless, and you may be called names and your son may be treated badly if you allow it to go on.
2006-12-01 17:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally when i see people making out in public, i get the idea that they dont really chreish what they have. A little kiss, ok.. but full fledge making out is kind of just tackey, like they're doing it for show, not because they love each other. personally, my thought is that "intimacy" at any leavel should be done in private. the public doesnt need to see 13 year olds making out, if they would like to make out with eachother they should seriously consider doing so in a more private setting.
2006-12-01 13:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by emilayyyy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
uhhh no 13 year olds should be worried about getting out of middle school first. Besides making out leads to other things. When i was in middle school we had 5 pregnant 13-14 year old girls and the number's only increased since I was last in middle school.
2006-12-01 18:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by hot_kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't approve of kids kissing in public.
It depends on where you are, though.
Where not to kiss in public: school, mall, restaurants, stores. Anywhere its obvious and in the line of view. When I'm walking in the halls at school, the last thing I want to see is 2 people making out. They can hold hands, hug, kiss on the cheek, but making out? Its awkward and distracting.
Where to kiss: Movies, on the street (if they really want to), in the living room (not sure is this is considered public to your standards). These are apporpriate and won't encourage you son to use his or her room.
Please talk to him about it. If he's making out with his gf in front of you (which makes most parents uncomfortable, and reasonabley so), tell him.
2006-12-01 13:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 is too young to be having a "relationship".. and seriously... you say "a very serious relationship" THEY ARE 13!!!1 Hell most 17 and 18 year olds who claim they are in a serious relationship- well anyone out of high school will most likely tell you it's a joke. But anywyas... He needs some hobbies- and be careful what you are banning-- are you banning him from PDA'S (oe teaching him he should only show affection for her when nobody is around?) or are you banning him from kissing her/having a girlfriend?????????
13 is way tooo young for girlfriend/boyfriend relationships and making out.
When i was that age- we had boyfriends- but the most we ever did was maybe hold hands at recess.... we knew better. and frankly.. even then at 13- kissing was still kinda gross...
2006-12-01 12:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
How can a 13-year-old be in a "very serious relationship"? Yeah sure, go ahead and let them kiss and make out. Maybe you'll be a grandfather soon and get to raise another kid!
2006-12-01 13:27:09 · answer #11 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋