My husband just ended his relationship with this woman and told her that he doesn't wan'na do it anymore. THe woman went crazy and called him all kinds of names, asked him why did he let her string along.... this woman knew all along that he is married and have a child......now, why do I feel bad for her?
2006-12-01 12:33:13 · 13 answers · asked by R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because she is obviously mentally unbalanced. She's pathetic. It's normal to feel bad for her, but it's not your place to do anything else. She needs help.
2006-12-01 12:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because like you she was burned. Remember she was burned by the same man as you. You have something in common as far as being lied to/strung along. The difference is....You were the one that was victimized (don't get it confused with being a victim). She and your husband both deceived you. You need to stop feeling sorry for her. She will go out and find another husband soon enough. She doesn't care about you one bit. I wish you the absolute best. I am sorry for all that you still have yet to go through. I'm not sympathetic to the other woman or your husband, but I do understand how you are feeling right now. Been there, done that and wish I could stop anyone else from going through it. I am sure you and your husband will be able to work things out, you seem like a very good hearted person. Just don't be too easy on him. Make him earn his way back into your life.
If I had one wish in life it would be...that women would take care of other women and that they would respect other women...we have it hard enough in life without all the cut throat, cheating some of us are capable of doing. I am sure I am going to get many thumbs down. I have many friends that think I am extreme on this subject...funny each one of them has been the other woman. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-01 12:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by smwah345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is ridiculous. Why would you feel sorry for her? Where is your dignity and pride? The man you love sleeps with another woman, goes against your committment to each other and doesn't mind ruining his family by cheating. Who is pathetic here??? Why are you letting him "choose" at all? There should have NEVER been a choice. He probably knew you'd take him back too. If he cheats once, he will cheat again. Honey, if you have a daughter, why show her that she has a weak mother who thinks herself so little of herself to keep a cheating husband? I feel sorry for you.
2006-12-01 12:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're too compassionate for your own good. It's not really a bad thing. I'd feel bad for her too, in some small way. She's probably got some issues she can't work through. My concern now is for your relationship with your husband. It's going to take some work, some determination on both parties, and some professional help if your marriage is going to survive this.
P.S. I have a question too if anyone cares to take a look and offer some advice. Thanks.
2006-12-01 12:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Viki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often times we take guilt upon ourselves. You are very calm about this, did you know about the whole thing? really, you shouldn't feel bad though, she knew what she was getting herself into, and the circumstances should eradicate any hopes of being "strung" into anything more serious. It's not your problem. But we are taught to sympathise with people no matter the situation. I just wonder why you are not angry with either. Or do I assume too much.
2006-12-01 12:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u feel bad for her, because he chose u, and u know how hurt u were when he was with her, so u know how she feels to be lied to and abandoned as u were when he first met her. but just be glad he is home, and don't give this other woman a thought, cause she didn't cut u no slack when she was sleeping with your hubby behind your back. what goes around comes around, and she just got hers back, maybe now she truly knows what u went through, and the pain u were dealing with. maybe she won't go with a married man anymore.
2006-12-01 12:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably fee bad for her because he's screwed you over and hurt you and also hurt her. She may not have known that he was married with a child in the begining and then when she fell for him she found out. Your 'husband' probably told her no end of lies about your relationship.
I think you are empathising with her and your a very good person for doing so.
2006-12-01 12:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you feel bad.He is your husband.She should feel bad but,obviously she has know conscious.You And your husband should maybe consider marriage counseling.It sometimes takes alot of work to heal a relationship damaged by one spouse being unfaithful.Tell her to stop calling your house or you're going to report her to the police.Good luck.
2006-12-01 13:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth do you feel bad for her? This woman had no respect for you! You should at least be happy she got kicked to the curb- i just hope you did the same to your hubby.
2006-12-02 02:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by carmen (I'm a girl dammit!) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl you shouldn't feel bad. but i guess its human nature. i think u are just hurt and confused. im married and have a baby. and i couldn't imagine my hubby cheating on me. but if he did i would leave his ***!
2006-12-01 12:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by sexymama06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋