What do you think of this?

Question

Today I spent hours out shoveling the snow. My husband threw a fit because I wanted to pay someone to do it and he said he would not do it because it might kill him. Soooooo, while I'm shoveling he goes out and begins to try and move his car, moving it right into where I am working at and getting it stuck. After doing all of the shoveling, he then tells me to fix dinner. I think he is perfectly capable of handling dinner. He never helps me do anything but gets mad when I want to pay someone to do whatever needs done. Does this seem like a big jerk to you?

Edit to this: I was shoveling to get MY car out because I need it to go to work. I don't take this from him. I tell him what I think. I told him he should have helped. It wasn't a bad day, he just said " The cold isn't my thing".

Answer 1

He sounds controlling. You both need some counseling. Even if he won't go you go. Pray for him to be more thoughtful and considerate. Next time don't ask him if you can call someone for the job just call someone and write a check when they are done. He sound immature also. Help him grow up. If you don't help him grow up, he might not ever do it. good luck!

Answer 2

Your husband is demanding, and lazy, but you are falling for his demands and supporting his laziness. Constantly falling for his demands with resentment is leading you soon for a burnout. Watch out, Marriage is sharing, caring, but you seem to do all the job yourself, surely not fair, in doing what he wants your are enabling him to continue his behavior, set limits, you are a human being, and you also need time and space for yourself and having a hobby. Just tell him clearly, you are stressed and hence cannot fall for all his demands. Do not make excuses, speak up and be clear how you feel about it, this is control and abuse.He cares about money but not you.

Answer 3

omg i wouldnt put up with it....hes a man and he should be shoveling snow and you should do dinner....a woman isnt supposed to slave away outside shoveling.....yes i think he is a total jerk....you should talk to him and tell him how u feel and tell him to start acting like a real man!! good luck!

Answer 4

Next time, if there is one, throw all the snow behind his car, so he can't get it out to where you shoveled, then when he wants dinner, put the bread and peanut butter on the table, call me, and I'll pick you up, and I'll buy your dinner, just for you being you......Supper of your choice.....And don't worry about me getting there, I drive a chevy silverado!! ...........ps...Happy Holidays. :)

Answer 5

I think all men can be jerks at times. have you tired telling him how you feel? or asked for his help I know my hubby he tells me he cant read minds but if talking dont help then maybe someone else could talk to him someone who he looks up too hope I helped if any

Answer 6

Yep, sounds like a big jerk to me. Have you tried marriage counseling? It seems like there is a serious communication issue...

Answer 7

major *** hole! How long have you been married & you're just finding this out? What other jerky things does he do? 60 second sex? Give you an allowance? I hope he hassome MAJOR positive aspects, personally, I'd start an aggressive "training" program on him--or find another partner!

Answer 8

Marriage is hard and everybody has the right to a bad day b/c **** happens. See how he feels the next day if it continues tell him to F off lol I do it with my b/f all the time. Make him feel guilty and he will apologize.

Answer 9

umm i think he is a big jerk he needs to pull some of his weight in the relationship i would suggest conseling because apparently you guys r thinking in 2 different directions

Answer 10

Yes, he might just be having a bad day, I have no idea! Good Luck, on working things out!