In the last 3 years I have gone donwn hill financial...all in trying to help my family. 1st my 2nd son was drugged while at a bar...results, he ripped up a town, stole and damaged 2 vehicles, and is now forced to pay restitution for something he can't remember doing. 2nd, my oldest son has gone through a bitter divorce, leaving him with alot of credit card and other debt. I have been trying to help them both to get their diginty back and keep food on their tables. They are both working hard but needed help...that was me. In my motherly ways I thought I could do it, but it is leaving my check book drained, and my credit cards are becoming maxed out. I only want to help but I am lost and need to find a way to clear my debts before my husband finds out. I know this sounds tacky and sneeky but my husband doesn't want any thing to do with the finances, he leaves it up to me. I feel like I failed just to want to help. ANYONE OUT THERe WHO CAN HELP???
2006-12-01 12:29:26 · 9 answers · asked by sketernibs 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Other - Business & Finance
Ok. I empathize with you. It must be very difficult to cut the apron strings when you child is in need, but a point comes in our life when we have to do it, especially if helping them hurts you to the point of financial devastation. I assume that both of these sons are adults...and therefore responsible for their own actions. Give them a hand-up if you wish..loan them money with an agreement to pay it back..but do not..give them a hand out. Feed them once in a while when they are hungry..but don't buy all their groceries for them.
You HAVE to tell your husband, I would also assume that part of the reason you have not told him is that you think he may well disaprove. If your husband works for a living and contributes financially..he has to be a part of this..because it certainly will affect him when you begin getting late payments and foreclosure notices because of lack of ability to pay.
Once again, I know it's difficult, but you have to cut them off...remember that your sons are the people that you have to hope will be taking care of you in your twilight years..if you continue to baby them they will never be able to do that..
Incidently, You didn't mention if you 1st son had any children while in the marriage..if he does..I certainly hope that he is making great pains to pay his child support first...
2006-12-04 07:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by KED 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-01 20:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyez410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-01 20:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tashameka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your husband's not so supportive of your situation at all. For him not to be bothered with the finances and leaving that up to you just shows that he's a coward. Forgive me for saying that but that's what it sounds like. He can't get angry at you at trying to get your finances in order if he's not going to help you.
The question is, are you working? If so, how many hours are you pulling in. The same questions go for your sons.
Not to go into any personal details but I was struggling financially to because of a car accident that I was in. I lost my job because of it and that left my sister to have to work more hours than she had to. I hated the fact that she had to do this so I tried to look for something where I could work from home because of the condition that I'm in.
I went to www.Elance.com and looked for jobs that I could do in the privacy of my own home and to be able to help my sister out. Luckily I was able to find a good paying data entry job from this site. The hours are long but it's helping bring in some money. Since I can't get out there and work, these hours aren't bad at all. Besides that since I'm a fast worker, the faster I get done with my work, the earlier my shift ends.
I worked from Oct. 22 till now and recieved $1,158 so far. If you check this website out you should be able to find something. The only catch is that it cost $14 a month for so many bids. I only paid $14 once and when I got my job I cancelled the membership. I hope if you look at this website you'll find something you could do as far as making a second income.
2006-12-01 20:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by ooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come clean to your husband. Trust me, from someone who knows, he will be mad initially, but even more upset when he finds out you've been lying to him.
You can't get out of this alone. You need to talk to him, and then maybe a credit counsellor, and perhaps get a home equity loan or something like that.
I hope things work out. You may have to get a job, or second job to get you out of this mess.
Good Luck
2006-12-01 20:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by bon b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sons are grown men, and should act it. They should be taking care of you at this point. There is no way for you to hide this from your husband. Get him involved, and you'll probably need to seek help from a lawyer.
2006-12-01 20:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by i8thr2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call the Suze Orman show or talk to a financial planner, NOW.
2006-12-01 20:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by dave_martin_7777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-01 21:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Joel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Bible.
2006-12-05 19:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by skeeter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋