ive been married 14 yrs with 4 kids. im in nursing school now and that takes alot of time away from my family. yesterday when i got home from class my husband had packed up all his stuff and left. he told me he hated me and despised having to pay for my education. we have been having problems and have been separated before. what should i do? just go through with the divorce or take him back (if he comes back)
2006-12-01 12:13:26 · 18 answers · asked by Miranda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no , you shouldn't take his sorry a*ss back! he will just walk out on you again. you can make a secure life for yourself an those kids after your classes are over. don't put up with this...be strong! an be happy again.
2006-12-01 12:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 yrs of commitment justifies an education and support while doing it. He wants a divorce, give it to him, but make damn sure he still pays a hefty sum of the schoolin. It's very hard on a relationship when you are in nursing school, and I hope he didn't go into it with you expecting nothing or very little change. Don't let it be his choice, what do YOU want?? Just remember, if you're done with the relationship, get your half of everything. And don't stop school over it. Good luck!!
2006-12-01 12:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was probably in the making before the nursing school. things like u spending ur husbands hard earned money (because it sounds like u do not work) at wal-mart, not cleaning the house, he had to eat cold food cuz u were to lazy to work, u probably griped at him every day about his rotten kids (like u had nothing to do with the birthing process) and then without his permission dediced that u needed an education and spend more of his money, or was it that u wanted him to leave, u saw the writing on the wall and that is why u went back to school. i say he is better of without a leach like u and just think he will always be the kid's father and will pay child support and get visitation but u are stuck with the kids 24/7/365. ha ha and my hats off to him
2006-12-01 12:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go through the divorce, even if the twerp comes crawling back. There's nothing to stop him from running you through the wringer all over again. You deserve a better life without his selfish immaturity.
Now get yourself a lawyer and milk him for all he has for child support and alimony (if there is alimony laws in your state.)
This way, the spoiled brat will STILL be paying for your education!
Good luck and good life!
2006-12-01 12:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the man. He obviously cares more about money than his family. You will probably get a good deal in the divorce, and you can find a man who will love you for who you are today. Let him go, it may be hard at first, but you will regret not doing it in the future. People change and you can't patch things forever. Move on with your life. This guy sounds like a creep. and I'm a man telling you this!!
2006-12-01 12:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by selljpk4fun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he packed up and expressed his feeling so bluntly I would take him at his word and go get an attorney and file for divorce. Why would you want a man back who hates and despises you?
2006-12-01 12:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt take him back...he is just jealous that you are doing something with your life and he isnt...the state will help you pay for your education, trust me u dont need someone that isnt going to stand by ur side...one less strain that you have to worry about. Good Luck.
2006-12-01 12:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what kind of problems have u had b4?? u need more details, there're circumstances where is fine to accept him back but theres times where even if it hurts u must let go.
if he packed his stuff n told u that he hated u than i dont think u should take him back.
but then again u need to provide details.
2006-12-01 12:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you's have had problems in the past i think you should just let him go. get a good lawyer and file for a divorce. if he wants to come back and if you want to work it out try counseling. good luck
2006-12-01 12:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the drove him nuts. if you can tell him how better things will be when you finish school. thank him for the tough times he has had. you couldnt get me to take care of 4 kids. PRESSURE
2006-12-01 12:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋