How can a husband be more support during last month of pregnancy and labor?

Answer 1

I have had 4 kids, thats a LOT of labor.

Do what she says......take nothing personally, if she says GET OUT of the room, do it, come back in a few minutes. Try to remember she will be in unbelievable pain.

what a sweetheart you are to even ask! Good for you!!

Answer 2

Being that Iam married and just about in my last month I can answer this really well.

1) Rub things. Feet, back, shoulders, neck. Doesnt matter what it is, your motto should be 'have lotion will travel."

2) Your wife is always right. Even if she's throwing things against the wall and yelling like a crazy woman. Whatever it was totally deserved that reaction. Smile and nod and encourage her to have a glass (or plastic cup) of cool water.

3) Dont bother fighting for more space in bed. She's not sleeping, so dont even try to use your lack of comfortable sleep as an excuse.

4) Tell her all the time she's doing an excellent job. My husband tells me that from time to time, and it really makes all the difference. He'll just tell me how great a job iam doing growing the baby. It means a lot.

5) Trick her into not stressing out. My hubby has become the guru of this technique. I dont know how he does it. But he's learned that feeding me when iam angry, and tricking me into laying down for a foot rub, and having and endless supply of cool water, avoids many MANY of my pointless mind-fog melt downs.

6) be totally into the whole labor process. Its gross, its animalistic, its smelly and scary, and you love it and think she's a goddess for being able to handle it. The above things also apply during labor.

I know these things really make my husband the best ever during this time.

Answer 3

I'm guessing that you've gone to many of her OBGYN appointments, but if you haven't, join her on those for this last month. As others have mentioned, be particularly kind and considerate...do things around the house, or in the nursery, without being asked. Offer to rub her back, etc. Ask if she needs anything when you get up to leave the room or have to run out for a bit.

You could also use the time to read up a bit on baby care. As you've probably heard/read, many moms want more involvement from the dads, then they (may) have a tendency to be very particularly about how things are done. (e.g. "I wish my husband would help bathing the baby" then "You're not doing it right, let me just do it...") to increase the likelihood that you're comfortable handling the baby and that your wife "gets" that you're really trying.

What an exciting time! Good luck and enjoy it all. Congratulations.

Answer 4

Just be there for her in everyway and if she needs something do it for her. Make her feel as comfortable as possible before and during labor. Labor is the worst pain ever, so Im sure she will want you there helping her. Ive had 3 babys and one is on the way. I wouldnt know what to do without my husband there with me. I never told him to leave and never ever got mad at him. I was more begging him to stay with me for every second. It was hard but he was great everytime.

Answer 5

like someone mentioned. YOUR dong one great thing JUST by asking us how to help.

BUT honestly ASK HER.
IF she wants you to rub her feet. GET the paper.

OH I remember one. My husband cleaned the toilets 2 weeks before my due date. AT THAT POINT. almost orgasmic for me. HE thought so much to get down and do the scrubbing. as I had a bad back that was acting up.

BUT do the little things. IF she calls you at work telling how fat and horrible she feels. AND she will if she goes over her due date. get her some flowers on the way home.

AND if you get tired of doing all the rubbing find a massage parlour that does pregnancy massage. BEST HOUR OF MY LIFE.

Answer 6

Just love her. The best gift you can give is love and emotional support. Somethings you can do are:
*Help her prepare her hospital bag
*Massage her back and feet
*Help more around the house
*Let her know she is beautiful no matter what
*Remind her that this is the biggest bessing for the both of you
Good Luck :)

Answer 7

Help out around the house. Clean things that need cleaning. Don't wait to be asked to do things. Offer to rub your wifes feet or back too. Ask her often if there is anything she needs or would like. Just try to be sweet and helpful to her. It's tough being pregnant esp nine months pregnant.

Answer 8

understand her, be kind to her, if she need to cry let her to do so, just be there do not try to fix it.
when she wants you to spend time with her, try to do so.
love her and tell her how much you love her
make sure to be around for labor and be with her all the way and touch her and tell her how wonderful she is , and let her know that she is doing great
if she has a birth plan talk about it with nusrses in hospital, if she can not do it herself.
and after baby born kiss her and have a gift for her

Answer 9

Be there for her, be helpful to her and most importantly kiss her a*s. She will be happy that you are catering to her and will appreciate your help. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Give her what she wants and do not use the "N" word (No NO)