A lot of females at my company have been passed over for promotions that they were very obviously more qualified for than the canidate who got the position. A lot of times when this person is promoted it happens to be a "buddy" of the general manager doing the promoting. This is sickening and I want to help get rid of these behaviors but also dont want to burn any proverbial bridges either.
2006-12-01 11:55:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I think you can get your point across without it seeming like you are complaining. You need to go to your supervisor and tell that person that you want more of a challenge. Tell your supervisor that you want to know what it is that they are looking for in an employee that will lead them to promote. How can you become that person? Instead of making it seem as though you are angry or resentful that you or your friends were bipassed,make it seem as though you want to know what it is that you need to do or what it is that you are not doing that makes you get bipassed at promotion time. I think it will seem to them that you are making an effort to be a better employee, then, do what they say, improve as they would tell you, then when you are bipassed it will be time to go the manager and make an issue of it.
2006-12-01 12:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual discrimination is a very serious issue, and you have to get your facts straight. First, you should make a list of all the women that you think have been passed over, and write down everything that you know about those situations.
You should then make sure you have about three months living expenses in case you are suddenly fired. Make sure your resume is ready. Line up your references.
The main thing here is that you can either quit and walk away from it all, or try to do something. If you try to do something, it may take up a lot of your time and will surely cause you stress.
If you want to stay and fight, then find out who in your company deals with sexual harassment issues. Every state and the federal government mandate that there should be someone who deals with this. Most companies have specific sexual harassment policies.
I recommend that you also find an attorney who can inform you of your options-and more importantly, tell you whether you have a case or not.
Attorneys that deal with sex discrimination can be found in the yellow pages. Interview several attorneys, present them your case and ask them what they can do for you.
If the attorney accepts your case, most likely on a contingency basis, you are looking at a two year cycle for negotiations or trial.
Finally, you should not surf the web at work looking for tips on sexual discrimination. If your boss finds out, he may decide to fire you way as a way to get rid of the problem.
2006-12-01 12:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by man with all the answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there is no way around burning the proverbial bridges. If/when you come up for promotion and are clearly more qualified but are denied the position take them to court. It's not just about you at that point if it is happening that nearly every female qualified is being passed over for a male "buddy" of the general manager. Good luck.
2006-12-01 12:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by anjelfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about situations like this, but maybe you could talk to the women that feel the same way you do, and the whole group of you talk to the manager. If this doesn't work, you can talk to an attorney together. Some people still in this day an age think that a woman's place is in the kitchen and barefoot and pregnant.
2006-12-01 12:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to be a buddy too :D
maybe there is a comfort level issue there as well..
the boss has to deal with the one promoted more closely probably and wants to avoid friction.
a lot of women these days carry a chip on their shoulder because of the competition they feel with men....or just in life in general. So they're not able to engender a 'relaxed atmosphere' with men on the job....so the condition perpetuates itself.
i've seen some successful women seem to have overcome this quandry and then men don't feel so self-conscious around them and therefore the woman has a better chance of promotion etc.
i think this whole issue is one of the most important in our society.....how the sexes can relate to each other in an efficient and respectful way and yet not impact their respective roles in the family.
from my experience, it seems that europeans have it figured out a lot better than americans do.....but their society is a lot older and mature than USA too.
i know there are some men who are just plain chauvinistic out there.......but i think they truly are in the minority and probably more of the older generation as well (just like they were more prejudiced toward blacks than most younger gen. today)
if a situation persists though, sometimes it's best to cut your losses and put yourself in a different place.....avoid negative people if you can.
2006-12-02 08:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sizzle Pizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even I am a male. This thing i see alot of my working time. If you work in a personal company, that is say the boss own the company this will happen. He will like to had his own relative in the high position. So my advice is just work what you been pay and leave the work at the office.
2006-12-01 14:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by chawcs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an anonymous tip to the state labor board.
2006-12-01 12:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by chromecranium 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you can hire a good attorney and tell your Boss you side of the story and not let your employer take that slime-ball's side.
2006-12-01 12:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by tfoley5000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are politicians. That's just our nature. Deal with it.
2006-12-01 12:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Chicago Made 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can have your cake and eat it too.
2006-12-01 11:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by c.arsenault 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋