My hubby and I have been married for nearly 20 years. We have five children. Before we married, he agreed we would move out of state. For the past five years the children and I have lived in a different state than my husband while he is "working" on moving here. Hubby has made it to where we could NOT move from "HERE" and can only wait for him to join us. He is now wanting a divorce. I am middle aged with four teens, and one dau. in college. I had a career when I married I gave it career up 17 yrs. ago as hubby stated I no longer needed to work as he would take care of me the rest of my life. We are over 1000 miles apart, he hashis own business which, I took care of all the bookkeeping, billing, etc., etc. for 10?yrs. We have a lot of our money tied up in real estate. WHAT state should I file for divorce in? HOW do I protect my chldren and myself in this mess? We depend on his sending money monthly and those $ get less & less each month. I'm afraid where this is going.
2006-12-01 11:34:46 · 6 answers · asked by l w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first you need to contact a lawyer or legal aid. then file for a divorce stating your husband has abandon you and your children it sounds to like he leading a double life and maybe has another family. it is time you and your children start a new life. as for you just because your middle aged dose not mean your old and don't deserve to be happy go back to school and start your career again you are truly an awesome woman to have put up with that for so long. God bless you
2006-12-01 11:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by deezee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be. You will have to file in the state where you have established residency if you file first. Chances are that since you already have custody you will be awarded permanent custody with child support and possible spousal support too, which should keep your money flowing. As your kids get older you may consider re-entering the job market for something to do and your child support will eventually end someday. I dont see anything here that makes this your fault but since you two were apart he just moved on in a different direction for whatever reason. Unless hes threatening you in any way, which is illegal, you shouldnt a protective restraining order against him. Also just as a tip, if you need legal advice and cant afford a high priced attorney, contact your states legal aid assoc. or a Paralegal (yellow pages) for a whole lot less and is just as good. Good luck
2006-12-01 11:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter what state you are in but I suggest you stay put. Contact an attorney and stop waiting on him because he owes you child support and alimony.
2006-12-01 11:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by sugardaddysgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for having to go through this, but it sounds like he's already made his plans. (My wife left me this year, so I know what you're going through, kinda)
There's another woman invovled, for sure.
You need to accept the facts as they are, and GET A DIVORCE ATTORNEY RIGHT NOW.
It doesn't sound like you're going to talk him into being an honorable man, if he's already shafting you on support, so it's time to protect yourself.
2006-12-01 11:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by dork 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find you a better man than what he is make him pay for what he has done you can get child support for your children and live for them hes not worth it dont wait on him any more
2006-12-01 13:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by gjfdgoperjgoljerojgoirejj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an attorney now...
2006-12-01 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋