I fell for a work colleauge nearly 3 years ago I didn't have sex with her but we had a very strong emotional bond, If the oppurtunity would have presented itselfs I would have almost definately slept with her, now my partner found out about this 3 yrs ago and has said she forgives me, now I think she is cheating on me, is this what I deserve?
2006-12-01 11:01:11 · 25 answers · asked by Connor S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No one deserves to be cheated on ... emotionally or sexually! You were wrong. And if she's cheating - so is she!
Have you asked her? Or are you just trying to justify stepping out on her again? It sounds to me like you both aren't ready for a serious commitment. If you were you'd be talking to her and you'd start the conversation with 'I am so Sorry...'
2006-12-01 11:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by why 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did have the intention to cheat if the opportunity arose,didn't you? If your partner knows exactly how you felt then she may not be totally committed to you now. Your partner may have thought that she could get over it but maybe she can not? However, i strongly believe that 2 wrongs do not make a right, so if your partner took you back then she shouldn't be betraying you - or even thinking of having an affair unless she wants out of your relationship. Good Luck
2006-12-01 11:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve to be cheated on, but I don't think she is doing it to get back at you or anything. People cheat for many reasons, maybe the other guy gives her the attention or the romance or the love that you don't, maybe you don't have time for her or you just don't feel that way about her anymore.
Show her how much you love her, give her a reason to want to come home to you and she will.
2006-12-01 13:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I would say that you deserve it but there are such things as emotional affairs. I found that out from my counselor. While you may not want to admit this but you did have an affair of types. If she is cheating on you then are you going to forgive her like she forgave you or are you gonna stick to the whole idea of, "well I didn't sleep with her though"?
2006-12-01 11:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't deserve it. If your partner forgave you than the trust should be rebuilt and whats the point in rebuilding it if one of you is just gonna cheat again? Forgiveness doesn't mean holding one over on you and so what if you were close to the other woman YOU DIDN'T SLEEP WITH HER so really you did nothing wrong
2006-12-01 11:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mark R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is your guilt for doing what you did to her and the girl that way there isn't there anymore and you have no one to talk to like you did before so your time is full of spaces and your girlfriend time is a busy one and she doesn't have as much time as you thought she did but it is what it is. If she is cheating on you then that sucks and it does suck for you because I feel it isn't that you cheat with someone by sleeping with them but it would hurt me more if someone was to cheat on me by them holding each other all night that is more love so what is that old saying what goes around comes around or what is good for the goose is good for the grander
2006-12-01 11:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes. And no. Two wrongs don't make a right but you definitely set up the relationship for this type of doom. It's a shame that she says she forgives you, but maybe she does because she's cheating...good luck.
2006-12-01 11:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by -- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is you felt an emotional connection and you did not do anything so realy you did not cheat didyou. As for your partner cheating - if she is I think she might be doing it for other reasons that tit for tat or I will get you back? so maybe you should talk with her and talk about your feelings?
God bless
2006-12-01 11:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, for women, an emotional connection is the same as a physlical connection. I might be wrong here, help me out, ladies...
Ask her if she's cheating on you. She may be doing so becauses of spite. Good on your part with being honest with her, but, what we sow what we reap.
2006-12-01 11:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by shawnzmojo102 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your partner is responsible for her own behavior. If she chooses to behave badly it is HER choice. We are each judged individually for the choices we make regardless of what anyone else does.
I have always told my kids, when someone else does something wrong, make sure you don't join them and do something wrong yourself. Let them be wrong all on their own. For example: If she hit you, she is wrong. If you hit her back then you are wrong.
Take the high road, the view is always better.
2006-12-01 11:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋