If person A feels loved with flowers, cards, weekend trips then person B needs to do those things to express their love for person A that way.
If person B feels loved with sex then person A needs to express their love for person B that way.
If person A gets sex and not flowers they will not feel loved.
If person B gets flowers and not sex they will not feel loved.
Just because they are our spouses does not mean they feel loved the same way as us.
Convenience is doing it the way we want it. Love is doing it the way they want it.
2006-12-01 10:55:07 · 12 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can you tell my boyfriend this!? Holy crap, I understand exactly what you are trying to say! I am struggling with this right now, trying to explain that I need different things than he does to feel loved and cared for (ironically, I like lots of sex to feel loved). I seem to give him the things he needs to feel loved, why can't he give me mine? I love the last line too, "Convenience is doing it the way we want it. Love is doing it the way they want it."
2006-12-01 11:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by *** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not how love works at all...if person A wants sex and feels that is the only way he can get love, that doesnt mean that person B feels the same way...sex is only one part of a relationship, some more than others think that sex is the most important thing in a relationship...Love is compromise period.
2006-12-01 19:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read this book: The Five Languages of Love. It will put all this in place. We all show and want to receive love differently. You need to understand your partner and how they feel loved and they need to understand the same in you to truly reach happiness in your relationship. Also - think of how your courtship was in the beginning - that is the person you each fell in love with, try doing those same "things" for one another.
2006-12-01 19:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Carey L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are correct. Very articulate you are. Love will also sacrifice and is never selfish so if Person A doesn't always get it the way they want it they shouldn't hold out from showing love until they get what they want. If Person B then does the same then no one ever gets what they want and no one wins.
2006-12-01 19:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree... "Treat others as you want to be treated" can be misleading at times, a better one would be "Treat others the way THEY want to be treated". But we have our limitations in assessing the needs of others, since we're in a sense "prisoners" of our own experience; we can't help but project our own feelings on other people.
2006-12-01 19:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from but i feel you misused the word "love"
2006-12-01 18:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip
2006-12-01 19:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by gettin it 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, very good.
2006-12-01 19:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many A"s B"s i"d go for C
2006-12-01 20:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the question?
2006-12-01 19:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Feel Realgood 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋