I have found my dream guy...perfect in every way possible. I can't even believe someone like him exists. The only problem is that before I met him I was planning on going away to grad school to persue my career goals. He is older and already has a career and owns a home. All of his family is here as well. By the time I graduate undergrad we will have dated for two years. We always tell each other that we are the one we want in each othere;s future, but never had said "i want to marry you one day." I think he wants to since all of his friends are and he knows my strong desire to have children and admires it. I need to decide what I am going to do. I want to ask him if he plans on marrying me right after I graduate. I don't know how to say it, or if that is weird, or if he will feel like im forcing him into it. Any advice?
2006-12-01 10:51:00 · 12 answers · asked by mjqueen2585 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes...
Bring it all out up front....
Discuss your hopes & dreams and plans and desires...
2006-12-01 10:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been dating for a while, you certainly have the right to know if there are any plans for a future together. Otherwise you could end up wasting precious time. Never assume someone has the same plan in their head as you do regardless of how much in love you are. It's important that you bring this up and discuss it, discussing possible future plans is not forcing anybody into anything, you have the right to know where you stand, and how you'll go about planning your future.
2006-12-01 19:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite easy. Its obvious that you want to finish your education before making a huge committment, so you dont need to ask him about it. You just need to tell him that you want to finish your education before getting married, and he will understand and honor your wishes if he truly loves you. There is nothing wrong with this. In fact it makes more sense to finish your education and start your own career so you will be a prisoner to no one at anytime. And just in case something happens between you and Mr. Right. Good luck
2006-12-01 19:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to someone i know and this is how she handled it,
they were in a really close relationship, knew everything, shared everything and also always talked about marriage, but not about dates. she went to him and said, i want to be with you forever, and i know you feel the same way, but please understand that i have my own dreams and goals and i would love it if you supported me through them and we reached my goals together! going to grad school shouldnt have anything to do with marriage. and children, he can wait because you are still very young and have lots of time to have beatiful healthy babies!
hope this helps
2006-12-01 19:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by bar22bie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pursue your goals , while still having a relationship with him. If this man really loves you he will pop the question, all at the same time help you to achieve your dreams. Good luck
2006-12-01 18:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persue your career goals and don't worry about when he will ask you to marry him. Continue with your education and make a life for yourself. Don't ask him when, just do what you need to.
2006-12-01 19:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known him? If it's for some time, I don't see anything wrong with bringing up your future plans and goals, including marriage.
2006-12-01 19:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone loves you-they want you to be happy and love doesn't mean you sacrifice yourself for them..it means you would protect them..is he keeping you safe by keeping you clueless and making you choose? Do you want to love someone like that?
2006-12-01 19:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by sugardaddysgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definately need to have this discussion...but are you engaged at this point??? how about starting with that question? Good luck
2006-12-01 19:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth would you ask him something like that? your right it is weird! go through with your plans and if he ask you and you want to then say yes.what difference does it make if he plans on asking you after school or not? don't ask him!!!!
2006-12-01 18:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋