It's a long story so i am just going to sumarize...my sister is 28 with two kids and i am 19 no kids and i live with my b/f. My sister and my mom dont get along but me and my mom do. my sister was having problems with her b/f so she moved in with me and my other six roomates. most of the time her kids were there. she started school and got her own place, and i moved in with her for a month. She offered up everything she did for free. now that i have moved out and am on my own i am happier. But she constantly said one thing yet reacted different example you can stay for free, wait i want money because your moving out now. etc etc etc. She is really just a hassle and i told her i wished she wasnt my sister anymore. Is this okay to not want to be in contact with her? The rest of her family doesnt have contact with her... but i tried not to be like them and give her multiple chances now i dont know what to do? Any suggestions? Thanks in advance
2006-12-01 10:50:05 · 10 answers · asked by turttlebert 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, its sounds like your sibling is a sneaky bunch (no offense intended) theres probably a reason why the rest of your family doesnt contact her, probably the same reason she is trying to do to you......
2006-12-01 10:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by SwordDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its really sad on both sides.
But the question is, are you really willing to leave your sister since all others have done so?
Trust me, you really wont have the heart even though u said u wish she wasnt your sister.
There is something in the family that always holds us together.
She needs you at least a part of you. Talk to her telling that you are hurt, tell her you really love her and wish things are a bit different.
Tell her that you would like her to change that attitude coz you want to part of her life as a sister and really love her.
I think talking things out would be really a better solution than breaking a pure sibling relationship.
Sometimes its better to remain young and have great fun with our siblings. As we grow things change, as long as we move along it and hold on to each other. It would be really lovely
I really hope u and ur sister get along again.
Good luck
2006-12-01 10:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In short, no, you don't have to love your family. You don't have to like them and you don't have to see them. I'm not really getting enough info from your message as to the level of issues with your family but I strongly believe that if someone is verbally or physically abusive, dishonest or manipulative, then they shouldn't be in your life. I have five siblings. One, I do not see or speak to even though she lives the closest to me. She has never met my daughter and I don't care if she ever does. She is abusive and dishonest and manipulative. I have another sister who I speak to once a year. She is abusive and manipulative. The rest are fine. We have our birth family and then our chosen family. It's great when your chosen family is your birth family, but for many people, that is not a reality. You need to have around you only people who make you feel safe and valued. Anyone who doesn't, well...keep them at arm's length. Good luck to you. Things happen for a reason.
2006-12-01 11:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by -- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is NO you do not have to love your family. Have you told your sister how you feel about her saying one thing and then changing it??? She may not know she does this or it may be a controlling thing. If she can't staighten up and fly right then it is okay to break contact if that is what YOU want to do NOT just because everyone else has.
2006-12-01 10:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that it's not cool to burn down the bridge with any family member becasue family is family. Just give her the money and don't ask for favors aftr that. She seems like the type that won't do anything for free although she says she will. Just give a friendly hi and bye. That's it.
2006-12-01 10:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by tika ukie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best way to love someone is to walk away from them. She is a disruptive part of the family, and she will never realize how unpleasant she is unless she finds herself all alone in the world. Maybe in a few years, she will get her act together, but for now...
2006-12-01 11:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're supposed to love everyone, and I think that family is the most important to love. That doesn't mean that you have to deal with every single little thing they do. Oh and, it's not good to get into money issues with family. It almost always makes things ugly. It will get better, with time. Forgive and forget.
2006-12-01 10:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Full Moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sever all ties but I would deal with her only in ways that didn't involve money or her and I living together. As long as you have your own space and she has hers, you both have a place to retreat to if things aren't working out. You may find that your sister is better in small doses (mine is). As far as with you moving out, maybe she was hurt that you were leaving or maybe you were babysitting or something. I hope everything works out. As far as having to love them, God wants us to love. I have family members that I love because they are family but I don't like them. I say love 'em even if you don't like 'em.
2006-12-01 10:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by betterthanhers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 18:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by guillotte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if she is only stressing you and not a positive entity in your life....dump her. Being family doesn't give anyone the right to be a pain in the asssss
2006-12-01 10:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋