i feel fine during the day but not when the night falls. i so miss having a partner then and I want to get over it.
i want to get over the desire to have anyone because I know love either comes or doesn't come your way.
and most importantly, i do not believe that being happy with yourself has anything to do with it. you can't romance yourself. i was just reading a preface of a famous linguist and he said that everything would be meaningless without his wife and kid. that's how I feel about it too but I'd like to come up with a way to stop missing this because there is no guarantee it will happen.
thanx
2006-12-01 10:26:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Life is unpredictable. For the moment you are single...I know that you miss passion...I miss that too...I'm single also...and I do things that makes me happy...I eat ice cream without counting calories, I watch a movie 10 times ( if a had a boyfriend he would think I'm crazy)...my point is that you always have to do things that you can't when you are involved with someone else. Just value every second of your life...every day is special...and just one day when you will turn right to your arm...and you will find that someone special is with you...and you will smile you will say...I'm not single anymoree :)
keep your faith.
take care.
2006-12-01 11:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I completely understand. I have been divorced for 2 years. I really miss having someone. I don't believe in sex outside of marriage, so that makes it that much harder. I guess I just try not to dwell on it, though soemtimes I do. It has gotten easier with time. I just tell myself, that while a husband would be nice, I can survive without someone. That is not what I want, but it may be the case. Then when I go out on dates, I try not to act all clingy, even though I feel like that soemtimes.
I just try to keep myself busy. I try not to think how miserable it is without someone. I recently got a roomate, and this helps some, but I am still alone at night. I just sometimes watch tv in bed at night and that takes my mind off it.
Don't give up you will find someone.
2006-12-01 10:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really weird because i have the same exact symptoms. Daytime is OK and nighttime sucks. I'm no Psychologist but it may have something to do with the darkness. Natural sunlight triggers the happy button in your brain in lay terms. Since my heart was ripped out and my partner moved out I've been miserable as well so i really feel your pain. It's very hard and loneliness really sucks. My friends keep telling me that things will get better but they haven't. Even when i go out in public and see someone i like or want to talk to i get too shy and miss out on several opportunities. Sorry i can't really answer your question but I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels the same way. Thanks. And please, if you could get back to me if you do find out some sort of solution. Good luck and take care.
2006-12-01 10:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by double D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a load of old rubbish! Love doesn't come to you, you go and find it! And why not just go and find happiness with just anyone? The perfect person doesn't exist. Relationships are bloody hard work. Just anyone may be the person who is prepared to work hard to find a common ground with you!!
I would die for my child, it is NOTHING like love for a partner and cant be compared to other, romantic love! It lasts unlike the latter which is dynamic throughout its time!
2006-12-01 13:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling alone is normal, however, don't let yourself fell into a confusing situation. Either you make a choice now, or just let the passion flow and when it come to you liking someone, try to accept it with all your heart.
If you have chosen to live alone anyway, having a dog helps a lot in dealing with the lonely feeling.
2006-12-01 10:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Hoovie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no guarantees in this life. Relationships take hard work. Just try and see. Your right being lonely is a part of life whether you like yourself or not. Just keep trying, nothing ventured nothing gained. Good luck.
2006-12-01 10:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a really well grounded person, I'm sure you'll find happiness and satisfaction in your life whatever happens. There are advantages to being single, try to enjoy them.
Oh and never trust a linguist... I studied linguistics and you shouldn't listen to a word we say.
2006-12-01 10:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by nev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the japanese make this pillow with an arm that might make you feel better
2006-12-01 10:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by FucAlloYu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋