Actually, I don't believe I was. I confronted one of my husband's other women. Talked to her for about 25 minutes on the phone. She denied anything was going on, but I'm not that stupid.
I know at this point it shouldn't really matter. I've already filed for divorce. Unfortunately, husband and I are still living in the same house and I'm having the hardest time dealing with his ignorant behavior and continual cheating. I feel I need all the closure I can get. I felt a bit better afterwards, but you know, I'd really like to kick his butt out of here.
2006-12-01 10:03:42 · 17 answers · asked by MaknMeCrzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your divorce is already in the works, so he isn't cheating now. Both of you are free to see anybody you want. Why would you want to live with the guy, if you want to divorce him? As for closure, forget it. Nothing will help except time, and building a new life for yourself
2006-12-01 10:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were wrong at all. My ex husband cheated on me several times and I spoke to a few of them (it took a long time for me to open my eyes and get that divorce)
It's really amazing how much a cheating spouse can mess with your head. It's nearly impossible not to stay immersed in the drama of it all, especially when he is still lying about cheating. (My ex still maintains he didn't cheat, although he married the last girl 6 days after the divorce was final.. so it NEVER ends) If you've already filed for divorce, you're already back on the road to sanity, and eventually this will all be behind you. Until he's gone, though, you'll probably find it hard to disconnect and start over. Get him out! Move on and find someone who worships the ground you walk on, or stay single and learn that independence is very empowering.
Don't deal with the drama. Start your new life, let the new girl deal with his stupidity. Good luck to you and I hope you find a way to get him out of your hair for good. :)
2006-12-01 12:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by asleep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Closure" is such B S concept.
Life isn't neat and tidy. Some times you get screwed over and that's it. If you can get some payback then do it if think you need to, but please don't say its "closure" its revenge. You want to make the people the cause you pain to at least feel discomfort for a little while. I should know I totally embarrassed my wife's lover and his family for "closure" ha it was revenge plain and simple. The poor guy had to relocate two thousand miles away because his name was mud around here. I know that to this day if I ever laid my eyes on him I would break his legs. I take being screwed over very personally. If you feel you need a little revenge and think you can get away with it go for it.
2006-12-01 10:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are divorced he should respect that, but he his only doing those ignorant things to get on your nerves. You really do have the right to ask him to leave. Or maybe you can start being ignorant too. How would he like it if a man or men were calling the house asking for you? Sometimes alittle of their own medicine cures the illness. Also, if you don't love him anymore stop caring about he does, it will only fuel your rage
2006-12-01 10:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally I doubt you can kick him out. Like you said you filed for divorce so you shouldnt really care what he is currently doing. Just relish in the thought that you will be free soon and hopefully end up in greener pastures.
2006-12-01 10:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong to call & question his girlfriend. But now that you guys are considered separated & filing for divorce, his women are his business - he's not really cheating since your not together anymore & of course he's not going to be sensitive to his ex (you). One of you needs to move out now - even if it means temorarily staying w/ your parents or renting a place. Living together is going to make everything harder & more complicated.
2006-12-01 10:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't confront any more of his mistresses, but i would definetly kick his a** out on the street...to flaunt his women in front of your face is disgraceful and down right mean..good luck
2006-12-01 10:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but by paying attention and confronting his "other women" you make yourself look pathetic. The best "closure" would be to move on with your life.
2006-12-01 10:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the divorce is processing, what are you waiting for to kick him out. you'll have your closure that way, things could be made a lot
easier this way!
2006-12-01 11:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Fiesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong. Your problem should only be with your husband, he is the one who cheated and wrecked your family. Kick him out now - you shouldn't be still with him.
2006-12-02 00:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋