I am with my bf for now for 3 years dating 1 year living together he has an older brother who is married but not always truthfull with his wife. I know his wife from highschool but we stopped being friends because she was very religous i was not as religous and when i lost my virginity at 18 in college to my highschool sweet heart she was really upset her view was that people should wait till they were married.Anyway we were talking about my wedding and she asked what her husband came buy for last night and i said he had not which was true he went out to a strip club but i omitted that last part about strip club .Now she is prying me for info about her husbands where abouts and i feel guilty.?I dont like her to begin with only reason i know what her hubby is up too is because he tells his brother my future hubby about it as well as their marital problems and his mistress.How do i get her to stop asking questions?
2006-12-01 09:58:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My bf has told his brother to come clean with his wife and divorce her or get help but he has not. Now i forget to cover for him like my bf does and i get interigated?
2006-12-01 10:00:27 · update #1
Maybe you ought to talk to your husband about this issue.
From what it sounds like, his wife is suspicious already and there's nothing you can do to stop her. She's probably quite hurt that ther husband lies to her, and just trying to find the truth.
2006-12-01 10:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nadja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty. there's no reason to. if she keeps asking tell her she needs to confront her husband and you need to have his brother convince him to tell her. The strip club wouldn't normally be a big deal but since she has strong religious views that alone might end up breaking them up but what i would do is to give the brother an ultimatum, and say that he can come clean with her and hope that all ends well or that you will tell her yourself. but the decision comes down to you.
2006-12-04 18:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by carkid_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her if she wants to know what her husband was up to, to talk to him and not you. I would tell her I need her to stop asking me questions about him. It can be done nicely - you don't have to be rude to her. Then I would be very careful from now on not to have any conversations with her that remotely have to do with your brother-in-law. This could be a real "smoking gun" - I wouldn't want to upset my husband, or his brother by forgetting to cover for him.
2006-12-01 10:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT cover for him and do NOT divulge information regarding him. His wife needs to speak to her husband. Let her know not to ask you questions regarding her husband because you are not getting in the middle of any of their issues. She can either respect you for that or not...in the end ..you dont like her anyways so who cares.
2006-12-01 10:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in a tought situation....your going to end up hurting some one feelings and loosing a realtionship with either the brother or his wife....i would choose to stay out of it and not talk to either one of them about the other....when she askes you tell her your not getting involoved and if she keeps asking you that you to cant talk anymore untill this thing gets resolved...
2006-12-01 10:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by greyc143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think how you would feel if that was you?????? That is not cool, If he is doing her wrong that is not your problem, I would tell him that you r not going to be in the middle of this it's not your problem and you are not going to lie for him, If she asks just tell.. IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM... The only thing your doing is helping someone be a coward b/c he can't face his wife... Thats what i think
2006-12-01 10:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she suspects something or wants to know such things she should be asking her husband. It's not fair to expect you to be the go between for them. Not to mention the strain it puts on yours and your bf's relationship.
2006-12-01 10:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart girl..
Discretion is a very desirable trait in a woman..
Just tell her that she needs to ask her b/f ,hubby these questions.
2006-12-01 10:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your problem... Your not any ones mommy nor principal. Allow people to make there own mistakes and deal with them as well. Just tell her to take it up with her husband, your not responsible for his actions...
2006-12-01 10:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, you deffinitely put your foot in your mouth &
you don't think that your future hubby is an innocent party to all this too ?
2006-12-01 10:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋