My wife and I tryed the swinger lifestyle. She was enjoying it at first. I had my hot wife that was allso my slut. Lately she has not been into it. It does not matter to much to me but I do miss the slut in my wife. It was a major turn on. We are still in the lifestyle. But she makes it like its a thing she has to do for me and not what is fun for her. How do I get my sluty wife back??? When we started swinging it was for a chance to make new friends and a new sex life. I found out that I enjoyed it more to see my wife with other men and women. It became more about how hot may wife was as a slut. Other women just did not mean as much to me. Any one that knows us knows I loves my wife. This does not want me to go out and get a devorce. Well you have any ideas let me know.
2006-12-01 09:48:36 · 16 answers · asked by William D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she grew out of it. Maybe she wants more out of you than just an approval for being s***** . Maybe she loves someone else who wants exclusively her. Women start liking it at sertain age. Watch out, you might lose her alltogether. Ask her if she wants you to be her and only her man. Ask yourself if you are ready for a change.
2006-12-01 09:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 06:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...how many timed did she have to "take one for the team" LOL
You need to talk to her about it and find out why and believe her answer and respect it.
Me and my boyfriend are swingers and we have a wonderful relationship, we are closer than ever, but it is very seldom that we "hook up" with another couple because neither one of us is willing to "take one for the team," in other words, we both have to be attracted to the other couple. Sometimes I feel like the guys in the other couple are dogs, I mean a lot of guys try and get their wife or girlfriends to do this because they are not happy with them. Me and my boyfriend always get to know a couple first and make sure they have a secure relationship before we "play" with them. These could be some of her concerns. For us, this is purely $exual and that experience could never replace the intimacy that we have at the end of the night...$ex is $ex and love is love. Maybe she needs more intimacy with you, she needs to know that you love her and that the swinging is just a "spice" to add. If she does not want to hook up with a couple or a guy then you need to respect that and NEVER try and talk her into it, it will only make her uncomfortable and this could be why she is pushing away. Let her make the decisions, let her take the wheel and see which direction she goes in, maybe your taste and hers are different in the lifestyle. You really need to sit down and talk and try and accomodate her. You are a very lucky man to have a woman in your life that would even consider "swinging." Don't let her slip away.
2006-12-01 10:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps y'all should step out of the lifestyle for a while...talk to her about your desires to have her act sl*tty, but if you KNOW she's not into swinging anymore, don't allow her to do it just because you still like it....something like that should be a mutual desire or not at all.
Perhaps there are things y'all can try on your own that will reawaken her "naughty side".
Keep the lines of communication open...swinging can destroy a relationship if not handled properly...neither party should feel forced or obligated...when it loses its appeal, sometimes their partner does as well.
2006-12-01 09:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she felt like she was only doing it for you. Because it was about you. And she feels that your more interested in swinging than being with her. She's tired of your selfishness. You say you love your wife, than talk with her and ask her if she wants to get out of the lifestyle, because it sounds like she wants out.
Get out of that lifestyle, it's a horrible lifestyle, because all it will leave you wanting is more and more, because it will never satisfy you. I know my wife and I were in that lifestyle, and it almost lead to a divorce, because I was thinking of what I wanted, and didn't consider her or her feelings. So instead of thinking about what you want, your wife being like a slut, why don't you think about her and her feelings and what she wants before you think about yourself.
Also get marriage counceling, because I think she's starting to resent you for getting into this lifestyle. And there's some conflict there that needs to be resolved. If you want to save your marriage, I suggest getting out of the lifestyle before it's too late.
2006-12-01 10:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
if you do love her, respect her. i am getting divorced after 23yrs...only ever have been w/my husband...would do whatver 2 keep him, but i thought we were great...meth changed him, made me not trust him... he did it, not me... if your wife did some stuff just 2 make u happier, be glad 4 the chance.i offered that 2 mine, but he chose other crap. ask her what she feels about all of this. swinging is ok if both r into it, if it was just 4 u, she probably feels guilty or afraid u might want another more than u want her
2006-12-01 09:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by kat 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to her and find out why she isn't into it!! If you can have an opened sex life, then have an open line of communication!
2006-12-01 09:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you really gave it any thought of the emotions she may be feeling because she is not happy being with all those other people. She probably realize she was only doing this to keep you and make you happy. It is still other ways to please you if you would allow her to without having other people involed. Just say honey I love you and what can I do to make you happy for a change.
2006-12-01 09:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Dont know... Maybe shes just not into it anymore. Try cooling it for a while... Ill bet she gets back into it on her own if you dont do it as often. I know I went through feelings like that for about 2 months and then I was CRAVING the fun again... Good luck
2006-12-01 09:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Maybe your wife feels depressed that you both need outside stimulation, i.e. that you are both not enough for each other....not really in love. It would hurt me if my husband could watch me with other men and not care.
2006-12-01 09:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋