I just came out of the closet, about two weeks ago. I found someone that i am attracted to, and like the company of, but we havnt meet. Im really excited cause we gonna meet today or tomorrow. Im so nervouse and confused about how to act. Can anyone give me some pointers?
2006-12-01 09:30:26 · 11 answers · asked by Jonny_Boy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You don't say how old you are, so let me answer this as if you are a young man.
Meet in a public place like Starbucks or McDonalds. Park where you can be seen by others. Do not go to his home to meet, no matter how old you are, that is a big NO. Lot of times guys don't always match their online self or telephone self. If he isn't like he described, say good bye.
Assuming he is who he has said he is, then take the time to get to know him first. Treat this as a friendship first, and don't rush anything physical.
If it doesn't feel right, at any point, say "no thanks."
Chances are this guy will be one of the good guys, understand no one likes first meetings, so cut him some slack if he is as awkward as you might feel. Be yourself, I never met a liar who was as interesting as someone being them self!
2006-12-01 09:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by imaginary friend 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just try to relax as much as you can, and act natural. By natural, I just mean don't get so worked up or nervous that you're not yourself.
And be prepared that what seems like a great connection on-line doesn't always translate to real life. So, there is a chance the meeting will be a let-down.
Other than that, I'd say take heed of the commonsense safety precautions people are posting - meet in a public place, things like that.
Good luck! I hope you have a great time.
2006-12-01 17:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the hookup is via internet or chat. Make sure you see him/it before actually confronting him/it. You really don't know what you may get or get yourself into.
I'd use caution if I were you.
If it is all legitimate, congrats and like others have said, be yourself, but if you are sarcastic, like me, then I'd hold off on the sarcasm until you got him hook, line, & sinker.
Nice to see you all giddy. Makes me think of my first meeting.
Thx for the memories and good luck.
2006-12-01 17:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by IMHO (In My Humble Opinion) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and be patient. No need to rush into things. Take your time and make sure what ever you do it is what you want to do, not your penis' idea. Go meet him, enjoy his company. Hang out talk, maybe give him a kiss. But be yourself.
2006-12-01 17:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, dont be nervous. Even if you are, you betta strut and act like everything is gravy, cuz confidence is always attractive, no matter who you're dating. Make sure that u are sure of yourself, and who you are. Remeber, confidence is key!
2006-12-01 17:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by kingsprincess90 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HOLD YOUR HORSES!
Ok .. so you say you have'nt met but yet you sound like you're going to pounce him first thing tomorow..
Take it slow .. talk and do not show too much interest .. it could be a bit freaky.. especially if he paying the same team..
So basically , act like a normal human beng..
2006-12-02 04:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by MapDark 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him questions....and LISTEN. Men love someone who really listens to them...and you get to learn about him to see if you are truly compatible.
Avoid 1st date sex.
2006-12-01 18:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you met each other on the internet, NEVER meet in person. it's not a joke. you can get seriously hurt.
2006-12-02 00:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be yourself
2006-12-01 17:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Urbanchik901 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
2006-12-02 01:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋