if so what kind of advice can you offer me? i really would rather deal with this myself not a doctor. what do you think, i am really having a hard time and it is affecting my relationship with my husband! What about websites?
2006-12-01 09:28:10 · 10 answers · asked by Vennessa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
the best advise I can give is go to the doctor. It is not a sign of weakness or fault, you need help. I too had this and thought I could do it myself and then I found myself setting on my bed with a bag full of clothes and my husband came in. he called the doctor an with in two weeks I was almost my self. this is nothing to mess around with it can eat away at you until you snap. I just read a storie in the paper in North Carolina a mother suffered from it and she ended up locking herself and her 3month old and her 4 yr old in the car in their garage. Her family found them dead in the car, carbon monoxide poisoning. please don't suffer!!!
2006-12-01 09:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by Moony Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some help tending to the baby. Family, friend, babysitter, etc. The best thing is to get someone or somepeople at the same time every day so you can look forward to that time of day. Make sure they are people who are supportive and won't make you feel guilty!!! I hired a baby nurse, and that got me out of the ppd. And gave me and my dh time to adjust, not to mention learn what to do, but it was very $$$.
The sleep deprivation is a killer -- it's the oldest form of torture, you know! So, you are totally normal to be feeling less than cheery when you are without sleep.
This is important: Remember it gets SO MUCH BETTER. At first you are totally freaking out, thinking "oh my gosh, I can't do this for 18 more years" (at least I was), but at about 3 months you start seeing the person in there and it makes a huge difference. And, i.m.o, it gets A LOT EASIER when they mature a bit, again, at about 3 months. They start being more predictable.
Also, I suggest putting the baby on a schedule...it's easier for you and other caregivers.
Good luck
2006-12-01 11:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by tish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did, after my third child. She was about 6 months old before it really hit. I started getting extremely nervous, full of anxiety. I would get really shaky and have heart palpitations. I couldn't travel except around town, for fear of a car wreck. I handled it on my own without drugs. It lasted until she was about a year old. It can really affect your relationships. I would suggest seeing a Dr. It's really hard to do it alone.
Here's what I did:
-Began walking every evening with friends
-Started taking vitamins and drinking more water
-I tried to work through the anxiety by reading self help books and other positive sources of inspiration
-Tried to get outside a little every day. Also tried to spend some time alone with my husband.
It's really a hard thing to deal with. You definitely need some support. Try Babycenter. They have a community just for ppd. Good luck.
2006-12-01 12:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by brantsbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will all pass. Its hard. Like the person above said no one ever tells you how hard it really is. Thats good that your not alone and have a husband. I dont know how single moms, or teens for that matter get threw it I really dont. When my baby would wake up at night I would just sit there and cry. Only because I was so tired and I just look at him and think how special he really is to me. Im not one to dwell on things or get depressed easy, but for people who do get depressed easy, must suffer from PPD really bad! Get together with friends and family that have had kids, talk to them. Get as much sleep as you can, and DONT be scared to ask for help! Good luck to you
2006-12-01 09:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 01:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so tough and hard and I did it myself also. I would recommend that you rest as much as u can when u can. Also, tell yourself that this pain and depression won't last-it's only temporary. Your body's going through so many changes. Talk to your partner and hopefully they can be as understanding as they possibly can. Don't worry about the house. This time will pass-I promise you. But if you feel like you need to see a doctor, then go. I hope this helps you. God bless and congratulations.
2006-12-01 09:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After giving birth to five kids it was the fifth one that I suffered and it was only for five to ten minutes at the most. I just told myself that I didn't have time because there were people who needed me. I guess it was the feeling of being needed that pulled me out of it.
2006-12-01 09:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
www.babycenter.com
www.pregnancy.com
I have suffered from it twice. It's pretty bad, nobody tells people how difficult parenting is and they think everything is going to be loving and peace and quiet and then you bring this "stranger" into your home and now you are suppose to take care of the baby. It's hard.
2006-12-01 09:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my baby in June and my depression started right at the hospital before I even got home. I was trying to breastfeed and because my daughter had been in the NICU she was being formula fed along with my breastmilk which caused her little tummy to stretch so when I fed her with all that I had she was still hungry and would cry and cry..I got frusterated and just decided to use formula and only formula..I was happy about my decision but guilty about not being able to offer my daughter the special gift of my milk...I couldn't just let it go and tell myself that everything was going to be "ok"..I felt horrible even though giving my daughter formula made her happy and satisfied! I came home and everything weny DOWNHILL!!! I had family, my fiance, a new baby, everything that I needed but felt incomplete and overwhelmed..I had nurses come and see how baby was doing that would talk to me for hours...all i would do i cry..I would be doing great for a few hours and than something would hit me soo hard that I felt like everything and anything I was doing was wrong..I wanted my old life back, I wasn't ready to be a parent, I was afraid my spouse would leave me, I felt he didn't love me, I thought I was doing everything for my baby wrong and backwards!!!!! This went on for a few months and my fiance was very understanding at the beginning but didn't know why I was feeling that way I was and was getting angry that he couldn't help me..I would ask him 1 000 000 000 a day if he loved me and would stay with me and everytime he would say "YES" but then eventually snapped and said "Honey, I dont know how much longer I can deal with this"...I felt as if I had been stabbed with a dagger right in my heart...I felt like he didn't care about me, he was going to leave for sure..I was mad at him! I would not stop looking after my baby but when she would sleep I would cry...I would get constant headaches from crying and sometimes well I wouldn't know why I was crying at all. My mom was here, friends were around, nurses came to my house, I read in books that everything was normal but I still couldn't get it into my head that I would overcome what I was experiencing! All I could see in my path ahead was a BLACK hole....I would say to myself "I hope this just ends"..."I never want to have another child because this is just too painful to experience"....I honestly can say childbirth was a peice of cake compared to this...What really made me change was months of not getting any kind of professional help from my family doctor and when I finally had to go to take my daughter in for her appointment he asked "how are you doing?"...I looked at him and started crying..I told him that my life sucked, I was a horrible mom, I couldn't do anything right and that my fiance hated me and started avoiding me so he couldn't see the pain I was going through...He told me that I needed some help to get me "over the hump"...Medication!!! After talking to some people that took these antiepressants they did help but they were still on them and when they would try to get off of them they were back to square one...I didn't want this, I didn't want to be meicated for the rest of my life!!! I told myself as hard as it was "You've got to stop this"...I left my house and went with my daughter and stayed at my mother's house about 2 hours away...I healed there and continued telling myself that I would only strive to get better...When I came home I was upset because my fiance was working late hours and I couldn't face being home a lone with my baby...I was scared to be alone with her and it had nothing to do with me hurting her I was just afraid I wouldn't know what to do!! I ended up going back to my mother's for another week and came home again...I was okay..still upset but getting better by the day....I would strongly suggest not resulting in medication but trying to talk to people...This is the #1 best thing to do is talk to other people about their expereinces and knowing that you could call them 24/7 and they will be more than happy to listen to you..I read books but even though they said everything was normal..I couldnt make myself understand that..I am here to talk to you anytime..My e-mail address is hotbabe_226@hotmail.com......made a looong time ago..lol
I know how you are feeling and the best thing to do is express your feelings..sometimes the men in our lives can be harsh because they just dont understand but this doesn't mean they dont love us..they are just frusterated because they fix things but they cannot fix the way this makes us feel..
Good luck honey and I am here if you want to talk..
Never hold it inside, time can only heal you..:)
2006-12-01 10:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I suffer from PMS. LOL
2006-12-01 09:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by SINDY 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋