my pregnancy is not something that I anticipated. I'm only 16 and i didn't have sex because i wanted to. there is a thing called rape and i don't want to keep a child that will constantly remind me of that! had i gotten pregnant in other terms, yes, i would have kept the child.
2006-12-01 09:26:48 · 30 answers · asked by BR 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No one on here can judge you as everyone else has made mistakes and has gone through a terrible situation. They don't have the right.
However, you will recieve it so just ignore it as they don't understand your position at the moment.
My comment was based on waiting that long it is irrisponsible. It is not an easy decision, I understand. That is just the way I feel on waiting into months of pregnancy to decide to terminate.
I would recommend counseling at the local clinic, which most states require a 24 hour period before the procedure or other method of abortion. I know some females who got pregnant due to rape. 1 kept hers and she loves her baby. At first she resented him, but she later came to terms that this baby only shares his blood, not life. The other two aborted..they have no regrets they say, but they still feel sad'n that it had to be that way. The other girl adopted and tries to move in her life as the rapist is still out there and abit nervous enough to not be able to care for a child.
I would also look into adoption if you feel abortion isn't for you, and that you are not able to keep this baby due to your situation.
Your choice in the end and need a good support system to help you through it.
Is your family involved in helping you and do you have a counselor you can discuss this with?
2006-12-01 09:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay you say you were raped and got pregnant, i can understand about the rape i was raped before too, no i didnt get pregnant, but why have you chosen to wait so long to chose to have a abortion? I think that there is something in your heart that had you keep the baby this long, why not just continue with the pregnancy and let someone adopt the child? Its not the childs fault on what happened and please do not punish the child for this. Its capable of feelings now, you know how you felt when you were raped and it was horrible, why put a child through 10 times the pain by killing it?
2006-12-01 18:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kaliyah's here! 4-30-08 7lb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I just want you to know that I am really sorry that this has happened to you. Being raped is a terrible thing and it shouldn't have to happen to anyone. I am not a woman, so I can't even begin to guess or understand what you are going through right now. What I do know is that what has happened has happened and now as a result you have a real live person growing inside of you that is just as much a part of you than the person who raped you. This is an innocent baby that has been caught in the middle of this terrible thing that has happened to you. Did you ever think that you can turn this situation around to make something positive come out of it. I know you are saying what could possibly come out positive from this situation. Obviously the answer is inside of you--your baby. Even if you make the decision not to keep your baby, there are a lot of people out there, including my wife and I, who would love the opportunity to adopt a baby. My wife and I have been married for over 10 years and we are unable to have children. Our long battle to have children ended this year when my wife had to have a hysterectomy because of some medical problems; this was partly due to her having cancer in her uterus. Now my wife and I have begun a new journey and that is to find a child we can adopt to make up for the child that we cannot have on our own. Sure, you could abort your baby because some stupid guy did something wretchedly horrible to you or you can find it in your heart to give that which is a part of you a life with a loving couple who desparately want children, but can't. Every year thousands of couple have to face the reality that they cannot have children. Every year thousands, if not millions of babies are aborted every year. I urge you to reconsider aborting your baby. I know having a baby will take 9 months out of your life along with a few weeks afterwards to recover, but there are adoption agencies out there who will help you find a family that will adopt your baby and through the adoption agency help to support you while you are pregnant. You have nothing to lose and your baby has everything to gain--life! Please look up some adoption agencies and look into it at lease before you make up your mind. Take care and know that you will be in my prayers.
2006-12-01 19:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i really think there are other options. I'm 16 with a 2 year old and i got pg at 12 had him when i was 13 getting ready to be 14 mom wouldn't let me get an abortion she's against it. but some times when you get an abortion it can sometimes harm you from having any kids when your ready instead of not . but I'm telling you it's the babies fault so don't punish it for what some sick *** hole did to you think of closed adoption or open because later on in life that babies going to have a right to know WHO there mother is . it's only the right thing to do and if you do decide adoption that kid might contact you and when your ready or there old enough you have the right to tell or not tell what happened but don't ever tell them they were a mistake.
2006-12-01 22:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by badgirl6456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not agree with abortion. But, I do think you should have the child and give him/her up for adoption.
Even if you were raped I don't think it's right to kill an innocent child.
Please don't take my answer as offensive, I was just giving you my advise, truthfully i'd be suprised if you even thought about anything I said. Do what you feel is right.
2006-12-02 11:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by StarChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 16 then you should definitely have an abortion. The trauma that carrying the child and berthing it may cause you at such a young age can be great. I say get an abortion. You may need to contact an attorney to get judicial permission if you don't want to involve your parents, if your state prohibits underage abortions. So ACT NOW!
2006-12-01 19:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by selljpk4fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption would be a great option!!! But don't take this baby's life! It wasn't its fault, just like it wasn't yours. But don't punish the baby!! Please!!! Who knows? Maybe this child could find the cure for cancer? Do you really want to just throw this child away just because of painful memories? That's very selfish. I know it wasn't your fault, but it's still no excuse to take the baby's life. So don't have an abortion. One of my best friends was adopted. Her mom could have aborted her, but she chose not to. Thank goodness!!! I don't know what I would do without her! Think of all the people your child will bless. Do it for the baby. Give him/her a chance to live and enjoy life! You owe your child that much.
2006-12-02 00:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest giving the baby up for adoption. I'm sorry about what happened, but don't blame the baby! (Pregnancy isn't a disease, you live through it!) To me, knowing that I was expecting, and then not being able to even see the baby would drive me crazy. There are alot of couples who would just about die to have a baby of their own because they can't conceive. If you decide to take this route, remember that people who judge don't know the whole story. I'm just saying abortion has alot of emotional scaring later in life.
2006-12-01 18:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by CruelChick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand why you would want to terminate your pregnancy. You didn't want to have sex, you didn't choose to have a man not use a condom while he did unspeakable things to you and your spirit! You didn't ask to gain weight, get child-bearing hips, and get stretch marks possibly. You didn't desire having a baby/child to raise. You didn't ask for it and it's not your fault so yes, you should be able to go through with the abortion. It's not a matter of responsibility and whoever told you that nonsense needs to check themselves. I detest when people aren't in the position of the woman and/or the situation and try interjecting their beliefs and values.....
Sorry....Good luck!
FYI....To the answerer Lynette, who posted that when you're raped your body SHUTS DOWN and that there's a 1 and 1000 chance that you get pregnant.... That's not accurate at all.
2006-12-01 17:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think Adoption is the right thing to do I think you waited a bit to long you are almost 4 months the baby has a heartbeat and deserves a chance at life. Somebody will be more than happy to raise the baby for you it is your decision, I guess I am just telling you what I would do in your situation goodluck .
I read your last post and it said you are 3.5 months
2006-12-01 20:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy.W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋