I have been married for 4 years and my husband gets very mad and upset at me sometimes if I don't have sex with him. He wants sex everyday and sometimes I don't. When I say no he gets angry and won't talk to me. Is it me?? Or does he have a problem?
2006-12-01 09:23:54 · 37 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He just doesn't have his priorities straight.....Let him know how you feel....
2006-12-01 09:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by Steven A 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's neither. He does not have a problem. Its normal for anyone to get upset when they feel they are not getting what they want. You should not have sex with him if you do not feel like doing that but I would suggest exploring why you don't feel like it. And instead of just saying no give the damn man something to look forward to. Give him your no but follow it up with some tlc and a promise for some nookie on another day. Let me get brutal for a moment. Would you rather you not give him some lovin and he go find it somewhere else? Cause if he aint gettin it from you rest assured he gonna get it sooner or later. Not trying to get you to do something you don't want but sometimes thats what love is about. He don't like something you want to do he has to suck it up sometimes and do it just so you are happy. It works both ways. You gotta realize that just deciding to not give your man some lovin gonna make him mad....I mean if he is a faithful man where else is he gonna go. Kinda makes me mad thinking about it...lol.
2006-12-01 09:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all all men are like that mine is too i've been married for 4 years also but when i say no i mean no and thats the bottom line he can get glad in the same pants he got mad in or he can go sleep on the couch. Just because your married dosent mean he owns your body and dosnt mean you have to have sex with him Tell him NO end of story.
2006-12-01 09:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y'all need to sit down and talk about this. Couples don't always desire sex at the same time, and that's fine...but if you are repeatedly turning him down, then he's likely to get frustrated.
Talk about a compromise...if you don't want intercourse would you masturbate him or give him a bl0wjob instead?
He shouldn't get angry about it, but sex is an issue that comes between couples frequently. If your sex drives or preferences are quite different it will tend to negatively affect your relationship.
Work on getting this resolved...perhaps couples counseling would help?
2006-12-01 09:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we are married and you, my irresistible wife, turns down my invitation for sex...I'd be sorely disappointed and yes mad...at myself.
It's quite true we all have varying degrees of wants. Regardless, I believe it's the one in need that must strive to ignite a burning desire from the one not in the mood. So it falls on me your husband to make myself irresistible; make you respond with that burning desire I craved.
Likewise, if I lost interest in you from frequent rejection or any other reason, then it's up to you to reignite the cold embers from once hot romance.
I could be wrong but perhaps the words to think about; routine, boredom.
Stay happy.
2006-12-01 10:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a wifely duty to render to her husbands needs. how would you feel if he dint touch you - rejected? he will suspect you don't love him or cheating. some people have different needs. sex daily is no uncommon.. some people do it 2or 3 x so it isn't unfair ya lay down next to a naked body or get turned on to your own spouse it is normal. 4 yrs so that's cool he still wants it i would be worrying if he didn't.now.. when he gets angry this is a problem.. he isn't mature.. he is demanding and u should give it lovingly. he need to speak to a sex therapist. but in general wanting it daily isn't a prob its the demand and anger that is a concern. and what about you/ why don't u want it ? maybe you 2 need to go to one or 2 therapy sessions. it will help before someone goes out ..
2006-12-01 09:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say he had a sex addiction! Unless he is like under 25.He has a strong drive and should wane thru age.A man marries to have sex when wanted or he would stay single so better give in to keep the peace.Plus he probly gets done quick .Then u can go bck to your stuff.Be glad he wants u .I hear most my friends complaining there dudes dont want it hardly ever.I would be glad to take your place lol!
2006-12-01 09:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by jessy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My EX-wife used to do this to me. I she would deny me all the time, on average she'd give it up once a week. I hated this, I'm a very sexual guy so i would get mad at her all the time. Sex is very important and you're the only one he's aloud to have sex with, so what is he supposed to do? put your self in his shoes, how would you feel? i felt trapped, she didn't give it to me and i couldn't get it anywhere else. YOu should try to pleas him more if intercourse is out the question then give him a BJ or hand job, something to satisfy him.
2006-12-01 09:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by 1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's his fault actually. See, when a man marries a Chick, his whole sex life is over. Chicks at the moment of marriage, start getting headaches and start loosing the mood. Men have to put up with that and eventually they get mad or go find what they need. So yeah, it's his fault for getting married.
2006-12-01 09:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
OH, HE HAS A PROBLEM. He is inmature!! My husband of 13 years is the same way even after all these years.. And it has driven me to say go get someone else .. I am sick of the bull from him .. he even acts that way when I am sick.. Well life is not all about him and his **((**** So tell him to GROW UP and stop being so SELF CENTERED!!
2006-12-01 12:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by woodenlady43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If person A feels loved with flowers, cards, weekend trips then person B needs to do those things to express their love for person A that way.
If person B feels loved with sex then person A needs to express their love for person B that way.
If person A gets sex and not flowers they will not feel loved.
If person B gets flowers and not sex they will not feel loved.
Just because they are our spouses does not mean they feel loved the same way as us.
Convenience is doing it the way we want it. Love is doing it the way they want it.
So maybe your rejection of sex is seen as a rejection of his love. Wouldn't you get mad if your partner rejected your love?
2006-12-01 10:00:32 · answer #11 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋