How should someone get over their fear of making mistakes and constantly disappointing others?

Answer 1

Always remember that a person who never makes mistakes only learns things secondhand because hearing about what's happened to others. Making a mistake is the most effective way of learning because it's learning it for yourself. Of course, one should try to do everything the best possible way, but when mistakes do crop up (as they do for everyone), the way to get the benefit from it is to do a mental 'debriefing' for yourself on what caused things to turn out as they did. What could you have done differently in that instance, and how will you use this information in the future?

Now for the second part of your question: Who are the people whom you're 'constantly disappointing'? Are these folks people (like your family) who 'want the best for you'? Do you feel that you're disappointing them because you're not perfect? Maybe they're just trying to give you something to shoot for, but I'm sure that even they aren't expecting perfection from you. Let them know that your life is a learning process & you're getting better at it every day. And believe that because it's true.

Another way to break a failure pattern is to look for realistic goals. Do things for which you have talent, and also occasionally try something that you MAY be good at, but you're not so sure. You may be good at it and like doing it, or you may be terrible at it and hate it. But whichever it turns out to be, you've gained knowledge about yourself and the world around you.

Embrace your mistakes and look at them as a positive and not a negative, and you'll end up a happy, self-accepting person. If you can do this, others will be accepting of you as well.

Answer 2

I myself suffer from social anxiety, in order to help myself get over much of it as I have matured I've learned to ignore what most people say and think because you'll never get anywhere trying to please everyone. No matter what you can only please some people some of the time and in doing so you would quite possibly be doing something that you wouldn't have otherwise done. You need to be true to yourself, listen to what you want to, wear what you want to and laugh whenever you want to even if no one else is laughing. "We all have choices. Some people like to stand in the rain without an umbrella. That's what it means to live free."

Answer 3

To those you think you disappoint ...unless it was horrible and anti-social, they'll get over it. Maybe reevaluate what your definition of mistake(s) are. And maybe you are reading into things too much. You can't please all the people all the time, Be a good person, and shrug off negativity.

Answer 4

You are absolutely unique in this world and you undoubtedly have strengths that no one else has. Try to focus on this.

Answer 5

Don't. It teaches you to act with temperance so that you don't mae mistakes or disapoint others.

Answer 6

Realize that if as long as you do the absolute best you can, its good enough.