And if you tried to explain it to human resources did they tell you there was nothing they could do? This happened to me about 10 years ago and the solution at that time was the principal at the school where I was teaching seemed to tell the male staff to stay away from me. I was just wondering if this was still going on.
2006-12-01 08:55:19 · 7 answers · asked by CresentMoon 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes. I suppose if I spoke up, I could have protected myself better. Instead, I buried myself in my school work, and later I kept my head down and worked harder at work. It is so easy to say that I somehow led these men on, but honestly I didn't. It seemed that ignoring them made the problems worse.
I had problems with professors, one a department director (so what am I going to do?) who offered to pass me on classes if I . . . . Ugh. Then he had the audacity to ruin my internships and reputation when I tried to avoid him and his cronies.
I don't remember the times at other jobs when this has happened to me, but it usually culminates with the wife, or co-workers angry with me. I don't know what I do. I dress in loose clothes, and I am mostly shy. I didn't need the attention. I am usually in a committed relationship. It's even embarrassing to write about those rotten days.
2006-12-01 09:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
What one person considers "sexual harassment" might not be so to another. This term is largely undefined. If a person is bothering you, tell him. Being clear and direct usually works. Often, the person is clueless. If he is doing this...or this is systemic, and you must go the legal route, proof is needed. In some cases. But it is good to speak up before i gets totally out of hand. It is dangerous but necessary. Hope you won't let whatever happened to you bother you another 10 years. Time to move on. Eyes wide open. But heart open, too.
2006-12-01 17:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by robert r 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately it goes on every day and you are right to report it as it might save someone else from feeling the way you do and don't hesitate it making it known as long as it is the truth the truth will free you take care i have been there before and i do feel for you and the society that lets this go on
2006-12-01 17:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by dumb as dirt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes. it still goes on. a boy tried to rape me back in the day and nothing could be done about it. though i wish i could have spoke up more, have more courage.
My friend was molested by her grandfather and they got him convicted but since her grandpa has so much money (he's lawyer) he had planty of money to get out of jail and go on with his life and god only knows what he's doing now. :(
2006-12-01 17:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by smile 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when i was about 21years old i had this about 75year old guy try to get at me i worked at a car rental place when it was cold we would get a car and turn on the heat to get warm and low and behold id find this old man getting in my car he was my supervisor so at first i thought nothing of it but then he would start trying to hold my hand or put his hand on my leg i never said anything to anyone at my job only my family and i started avoiding him by hiding and hanging around others which worked but then he started excluding me from the work crew and made me work alone after about 3 weeks of that i finally cussed him out and end up i had to switch shifts or quit...so i quit...if your in this situation tell before you get in trouble
2006-12-01 17:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course its still going on. It's gone throughout history and will continue to do so as long as men and women are different sexes.
2006-12-01 17:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
me of course...and im still in high school so i can say yeah definately it doesnt matter if you are an adult or a minor it happens
2006-12-01 17:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by xo_cuddly_kitten_xo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋