i am pregnant with my 4th child. and i told my husband and i just told my sons. my oldest son hates the idea of having a baby sister, or another baby brother. he isnt very happy, and i didnt think he would be. i know he will get better, but i dont know how he would feel if we had a 4th son. is it going to be hard for my two 12 year olds and my 14 year old to get used to a new baby? do you think it was a bad idea to wait this long to have another baby?
2006-12-01 08:46:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well im 14 and my mom has just had a baby, dont worry!
When my mom told me i wasn't happy i thought id be jelous!, but as time went by i started geting excited and when my beutiful baby sister finnally arrived it was amazing i love her so much!
Just make sure you keep them imformed and tell them everything that is happening and when the baby is born, let them help out, let them hold him/her they will be fine trust me =]]
hope i helped xx
2006-12-01 08:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just a big age gap. At that age they know where babies come from. I don't think it's because they are jealous of the new baby though (that's for 8 year olds). You say you have a 12 and 14 year old? They should be happy about it! I don't know why they wouldn't, as they can be a proud older sibling! Tell them that. Also, when I was 8, my mom became pregnant and even though i was a bit sad I wasn't going to be the youngest anymore, and getting all the attention I was used to, for the most part, I was surely excited! I even drew a picture of the baby and me and gave it to her!
2006-12-01 16:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Amber skie (22/f/ca) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much, chances are they are more jealous right now and possibly upset because maybe they didn't get to have an opinion in the matter. What you can do is continue talking to them about it and include them in on all the prepping for the new baby. The shopping for clothes and toys and other accessories. Have them help decorate the baby's room too. Most definitely once they get to see and hold the new arrival they'll love their new brother or sister. Just keep the communication lines open with them, ask them how they feel about it, honestly. It will all be ok in the long run. Best wishes to you.
2006-12-01 16:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by masmalan2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 8 when I got pregnant with my son. She hated the idea of having a brother or sister... she was so used to it being just her and I. After Caden was born, she completely changed and was thrilled to have the baby around. Of course now that the baby is a toddler and in her stuff there are times she probably wishes she was an only child.... Give them time - they should come around. Good Luck and Congrats
2006-12-01 16:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want another child, and you are ready, your family will adjust.
If they get a little sister they will probably FREAK, in a good way.
They will love her and probably spoil her almost as much as you...
If they get another little brother, it could go either way.
Just remember to love on the middle and older children, or THE BABY, thats me by the way, will get picked on by the older ones...
well maybe that was not the case so much for me.
My oldest Bro. was born in 1960, my sister likethree yrs later, 63 maybe 64, then my middle bro, like 65, 1 yr after her, then I drifted into the picture in 1971.
Well besides our family seperating about 76, we all turned out okay.
And my siblings were happy when i was born, even so late.
DJ
2006-12-01 16:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by gemseeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them involved as much as possible in planning for when the baby arrives. Try to change the way they view the situation. Tell them that since they are growing up and becoming independent, you wanted to have another child that you hope will turn out as well as they did.
Make sure that they know you love them and will always be there for them no matter what.
It's a bit atypical to wait so long, but who says it's a bad idea? It's your life and you know what you want to do. They'll ultimately have to deal with it anyway. Just try to find out exactly why they are upset and address it.
oh, and congrats!
2006-12-01 16:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by teel2624 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it is to long to wait and have another baby, me personally i would not want mine that far apart but i do understand people may have complication, my aunt has a 16 yr. old and a 6mo. old two girls and she loves it, my cousin likes her new sister.
sometimes i have seen when there are older siblings and a new one comes along the older children start having alot more chores and has to help out with the baby so much, but i don't know if thats the case with you but try to involve them in the joys of having a new baby in the house and don't make them take care of the baby all the time they might be afraid of that.
2006-12-01 16:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having another child is your decision (& your husband), the kids will get used to the idea as time goes by & they'll come around. I think it's because it's such a big change that your oldest has a problem with it. If you have a little girl her brothers will probably spoil her rotten. God bless you all :).
2006-12-01 16:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by wanda3s48 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i was 16 my mother got pregnant and i wasnt exactly happy about it either. I had just lost my 9 year old brother to a car accident so Im sure that had alot to do with it. And even in that situation, once my new baby brother was born I loved him more than anything and i was mad at myself for even getting upset when i found out she was pregnant. Now he is going to be 5 and he means more to me than anything in this world. They will def get over it.
2006-12-01 17:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether your kids like it or not it's going to happen now. If they are that old and acting like that I would be highly disappointed in them.
2006-12-01 16:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by ktpb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋