I love my course and wouldn't change my mind with the uni course. But on the social side, its the end of the 1st semester and I see people going out all the time, while I'm stuck in alone, feeling lonely. Any advice or views?
2006-12-01 08:26:27 · 12 answers · asked by magic_unicorn 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I don't get on with my flatmates and i have low self esteem
2006-12-01 08:33:07 · update #1
You know... I had an excellent time in college. Partied all the time.. drank.. had a grand ole time. Best 6 years of my life... never graduated.
Get your degree and only party on the weekends. I wish I had!
2006-12-01 08:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest joining a club or society, that's the first start. In the case where you do not get on with your flatmates don't let it get to you, try making friends with people on your course then invite them to your hall that way the mood lightens up in your flat.
Go out on weekends or the nights when you don't have an early lecture the next day. My first year at uni i made one friend the first night, all my other friends came from either my course or i met them while i was out.
Since it's christmas get soem chocolate and go knocking on your flat mates door offer them chocolate and wish them a merry chritmas and i'm sure they'll lighten up.
2006-12-05 14:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Babygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you majoring in? Often there are honors or professional fraternities and sororities associated with a specfic major; you can all hang out and talk about the classes you have in common and whatnot. I joined the music fraternity at my school even though I was totally not into the Greek scene, because we are greek by name but don't really do the whole party-and-get-wasted thing. And I've met people I really like and we often have the same music related classes, and can study together and we see each other at rehersals and all... it's great, I never thought I'd be this plugged into the music program at my school. I thought I'd just do my own thing and graduate but now there are plenty of people I can call up to do things with.
Hope your second semester goes better.
2006-12-01 17:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by incandescent_poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, cheer up!
Strategy 1: Start forming relationships by talking to people. Not too persistently of course, however be open, be friendly, smile :)
Strategy 2: Start playing a sport or joing the University newspaper. Something that involves meeting tons of new people. Be kind to people, smile, be positive.
Strategy 3: "People care about people that care about themselves" :) it's from a movie, nevertheless there is truth about it. Be alone, but not lonely. When by yourself, or around with strangers, do not be desperate for attention. Prove to the world that you are sufficient and are pleased to spend some alone time. :) I did a lot of rambling, hope it was some help. Good luck!
2006-12-01 16:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tzvety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to join a club or something and get to know people on your course. I'll likely be in a similar position since I'm not good with people I don't know and I don't drink, so I can't meet people that way. If you don't like your flatmates though, try find other people or ways to meet people.
2006-12-03 12:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Eden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
University is a way of life, It can be very daunting to start with. Do not close yourself away, it sends the wrong message to others. They may think you do not want to mix.
Go and talk to the uni councelling service they will help you to address your problems.
I was at uni for six and a half years and I miss it terribly. All my friends have gone now but I will always have the memories and two degrees.
2006-12-03 08:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon! Try not to let it get to you. Everyone makes friends in different ways and it totally depends what kind of people are around you whether you would actually wanna spend time with them.
The first thing is try not to let it get you down. The second is if you want to meet people try getting into clubs and societies for things you are interested in, so you might meet people who you get on better with and will want to spend more time with. This will also take you out of your house/flat/halls in the evening when others are going out.
What about course mates? Maybe arrange stuff with them if there is someone you get on with.
There are tons of people around, and it is still early days. Be brave, get out there and do things you enjoy and you will meet people you get on with.
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2006-12-01 16:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd start by leaving my bedroom door open if sharing a flat or floor with other students. Get to know tose that live right next to you.
If your not living in halls of residence try to get to know those that have your exact timetable.
I started university this year and was frightened of what people would think, but i forced myself to be aproachable by leaving my door open n randomly shouting hi to those that walked past (i dont do that now i know them and are on good terms)
2006-12-01 16:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mainey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and party. I assume its your first year so this year doesnt even count to your degree! You just need 40%!
Join a society or something, My rugby society are always having socials. Plus course socials are always a laugh.
Try joining up to www.facebook.com, its like my space but just for students. People list parties and events they are organising so you could find out what ppl are up to.
Have fun.
2006-12-01 16:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by Stuart J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make the effort people dont come to u you have to go where the people are, do you have a room mate go out with them join a club make an effort go to the student union and see whats happening hope this helps
2006-12-01 16:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋