i just not to long ago ended my marriage to a man who didnt show much love toward me or my unborn also to my 7 year old why cant men stay the way when you first meet them why must they change when they get to feel they are stabble in the relationship and we take the good with the bad . i have 3 strikes your out rule you choose to try me, you get left out in the cold. where o where are you . show yourself stay real from the jump .
2006-12-01 08:20:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This happens all the time. Just try to work it out.
2006-12-01 08:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by seb_man188 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lets take a moment and be real. No one ever really knows themselves. So if you take that knowledge you will come to understand why people change. They change because it is our nature to grow and evolve for better or worse. In the beginning of a relationship 9 times out of 10 starts out great. This is just an illusion because the person is new, and we have yet to find those things that are annoying just yet. But as the relationship grows things begin to happen. We start to see more and more about that person. Some of the things we keep to ourselves while other things we talk out lovingly or harshly, animosity builds, petty differences develop...things just become a clutered mess. I am just saying that maintaining that same level as when you first meet is unrealistic. I am sure if you really look at things you to will see how maybe your ways changed somewhat. It is nothing good or bad it is just life. The survival of the marriage is not based on not changing but when the changes come can your love adapt...see its way through all the crap. And just so you know what happened to you is not exclusive to your gender....believe me it happens to us all males and females alike.
And one last thing....stop with the three strike rule nonsense. It is rather juvenile. In a lot of ways it encourages bad behavior cause hell they know they got two more strikes to go.
2006-12-01 16:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The daily grind takes the romance out of any relationship and reality sets in. If you expect to view a man the same as before you married him you are mistaken, the rose colored glasses come off and you see the real person that was there all the time.
2006-12-01 16:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually men don't change much. It is just that women get so wrapped up in love they don't see the signs.
I advise you wait at least 2 years before considering marriage and remember you will not be able to change the man into what yo want. You get what you get
2006-12-01 16:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by keith s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Us men are unreliable, because we get bored easily. We are always on the hunt for the next thrill. We are hunters and gatherers, it is in our genes. We like the thrill of the hunt. When we catch our prey, we get bored and are looking for the next thing to come along.
2006-12-01 16:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you will find an acceptable candidate if you put your energy in the right places. You don’t seem angry about your situation and that’s a sign of a healthy head.
2006-12-01 16:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't change. You just saw what you wanted to see in the beginning. Been there, done that.
2006-12-01 16:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Debra D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first , be true to yourself, respect and love yourself, then he will also, you have had some rough paths in your young life, let your angel and your love of your children give you strength and support
2006-12-01 16:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋