How do I Dump My Boyfriend - I want to stay with my husband?

Answer 1

I am assuming that you are separated from your husband, and you want to go back to him, tell your boyfriend that you want to go back and try again to make sure your doing the right thing, help him to understand that you are trying not to make anymore wrong choices in your life and how you hope that he can respect you for this, if he is a real man! He'll give you one last kiss, wish you happiness and mean it, and walk away, if he doesn't and becomes angry and nasty about it, you know than that you made the right choice, good luck and I hope you find your happiness

Answer 2

You see, it's women like you that piss me off. My husband is cheating on me, and has lied and justified ever since he's been found out.

I have never felt this way before. It's a pain I can't even begin to describe. I don't think you realize the damage you're causing to your marriage. Even if you claim you want to stay, things will never be the same between you and your husband.

You need to address the reasons WHY you are cheating in the first place. You may feel they're valid, but there is NO EXCUSE for cheating. If you feel you're lacking something in your marriage, why don't you take that up with your mate? Why do you take the easy way out, running into the arms of another?

You've got issues. If you really want to leave your "boyfriend", you'll just stop seeing him, COLD TURKEY. That means: NO PHONE CALLS, NO EMAILS, NO TEXT MSGS, NOTHING. Do you hear me? And unless you're a person with no conscience, you'll probably have to tell your husband what you've done! You may have exposed him to diseases he'll never be able to get rid of! Do you even think about things like that?

Time to start thinking of someone other than yourself. If you love your husband, you will ask for forgiveness and stop what you're doing.

Answer 3

Tell him in a nice way so that he doesn't go all crazy and tell your husband, but be prepared for any backlash. I made this mistake and broke it off quickly, and tried for two years to put it behind me. My husband found out after two years. We almost broke up over it and it still is a big issue in our lives even after 8 years. Please, look at the reasons you got a boyfriend in the first place, think about those and what you really want out of life. Do you want an honest and loving relationship with your husband? You might have to tell him about the affair. Do you feel trapped? You might have to leave your husband. The boyfriend is just the symptom of a much bigger disease.

Answer 4

Bad Girl ?
The first thing you need to find out is can you walk-away and never have to worry about this person again?
Then, is that what you reeeeeeeealy want to do?
If you love your husband then act like it. ( Food 4 thought, you may not be the only girl in your boyfriends life.
I hope you don't have any children by your husband. If so, it should be a no-brainer. If you want your spouse, tell boyfriend and go HOME.
You gotta think!!!!!!!!! do I want my Husband to do this to ME ?? Life is short Be happy SOMEWHERE

If all else fails remember this ***** Goes Around
Comes Around

Answer 5

You've put yourself in a bad way...now should your b/f choose to feel scorned at this new turn of events he can choose to tell your husband about the whole affair...or even worse threaten you with it and co-erce you to stay with him...fortunately most dudes today don't think like this but there is still the possibility...it's more likely that the worst possible scenario would be him telling your husband out of rage/scorn...you've really gotten yourself into a pickle lol...best thing to do is face the music, tell the b/f that you care about him/like him etc etc but your relationship w/ your husband/family is too important...oh I know a tricky way out...do this...tell him that if you chose to leave your husband you wouldn't know if you would trust yourself not to leave you for someone else as well...this will confuse him a bit..but his likely response might be well...you've already had an affair w/ me so the cats' out of the bag already so to speak...but your best comeback would be yes...thats why I have to nip this thing in the bud before it gets out of hand...most people would agree at this point even if they dont verbally do so...so you've basically trumped his hand at that point...my advice would be to get yourself into some serious counciling after that at this point...and I don't mean a few therapy sessions...talk to a licensed psychologist...this is a serious dilema you've gotten yourself into...most people have the tendancy to repeat this pattern ad infinitum...if you want to end this whole ordeal now you have to realize the root of your problem so you can deal w/ it and move on w/ your life...tell the shrink that's what you want to do...and if they can't do this for you find one that will...take responsibility...it's time we all did...

Answer 6

Bad girl fits you. What you’re doing is called cheating. How would you feel if the roles where reversed? I bet not too good. You’re heart would sink into your stomach and feel like part of your life was taken away from you.

Plain and simple you will have to break it off with him? I can’t tell you how.
Are you going to talk to your husband about this issue?

I think he has the right to know. If you had sex with this boyfriend don’t you think you are not only putting yourself at risk, but now your husband?

My suggestion is seek marriage counseling. There are problems and you need to address them and find a resolution. Don’t push it under the rug. Problems don’t go away on their own. They will resurface at some point in time.

Answer 7

I'll assume you were leaving or have left, then change your mind.

Be honest. Tell the boyfriend that you have taken inventory of your life and have decided that this relationship is impossible because you feel that you haven't given your marriage a second effort and you feel that you should reconcile with your husband.

Rebound relationships always end this way. If you are cheating, tell him your conscience is getting the better of you and you must end it. Start complaining to your husband about crank/prank phone calls and change ALL of your numbers.

If the latter is the case, I pray that you don't have a pet rabbit.

Answer 8

WOW! First of all have you told your husband about the boyfriend? Chances are when you go to dump your little boy toy he will be running straight for hubby to give him all the juicy details! He'll want to hurt you and personally I think you deserve it for hurting hubby!
Either way, if you are wanting a chance in hell to save your marriage you better come clean on your own and not make hubby confront you with it! Tell boyfriend to hit the road! Tell hubby and work like hell to convice him it will never happen again! Be thankful if he even GIVES you the chance to make it up to him because I know I wouldn't!

Answer 9

Hmmmmmm Someone has been naughty this year lol
Just talk it out with your boyfriend. tell him that you have made a big mistake and things are not working out, because every time your with him you feel beyond guilty. Because if you say your happy with your husband he'll ask you "Then why did you come to me for?". Just let him know in a straight forward manner it saves the running in circles. if he disturbs you just ignore him. but then again he could use your fling as a threat to your husband. At some point I hope you do know you would have to tell your husband because you kept him in the dark and its better you tell him than for someone else to :)

Answer 10

Well for one you might get into a mess when you do, Because if your bf doesn't like it he just might go to your husband and tell him everything. SO maybe he might just say ok. MAybe the best way is by telling him your husband is getting suspicous about where you go or call. ANd tell him you ahve to end it in a good way. MAyube he will know that he's getting dumped the nice way. SO good luck.